(Closed) Would you be okay (as a guest) with the couple only having a honeymoon registry?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Would you be okay (as a guest) with the couple only having a honeymoon registry?
    Yes, i wouldnt think anything of it and give them something off the registry : (102 votes)
    39 %
    Yes, but I would probably just write them a check and give it to them at the wedding : (58 votes)
    22 %
    No, you should have at least one other registry with pot, pans, plates, etc : (33 votes)
    13 %
    I dislike honeymoon registries and suggest against them completely : (69 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1917 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I personally think they are in poor taste, because I think the honeymoon is something the bride and groom should pay for themselves.  That being said, I would likely just give you another gift.

    Post # 3
    Member
    7609 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I attended a wedding that had only a honeymoon registry and to be honest, I wasn’t really comfortable using it so I gave them cash in a card.

    Post # 4
    Hostess
    16215 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    If I were a guest, I’d contribute to the honeymoon registry, as long as there were opportunities for different price points. 🙂

    Post # 5
    Member
    3943 posts
    Honey bee

    I wouldn’t really mind.

    Post # 6
    Member
    4676 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Personally I am a little old fashioned and probably wouldn’t get anything off of the honeymoon registry.  I agree with PP, the bride and grrom should be responsible for their own vacation.  I would just give cash to be used however they feel necisary.  

    Post # 7
    Member
    116 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2008

    Think of it this way.  Registeries are for couples preparing for their next step in life.  For example Bridal and Baby registries.  Would you think it was weird if a couple expecting a new baby said “Oh, we already have everything we need” and decided to register for a ‘Babymoon’?  Would you seriously write them a check so they could take a vacation?

    Post # 8
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    853 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think it’s tacky. Sorry. It can be OK to have as an option, and if you feel that you REALLY need to, you can spread around to your family that the honeymoon registry is what you truly need. Still, if you can’t afford it, just stay local and low-key. I think that type of registry (especially as your only one) is really grabby.

    Post # 9
    Member
    4887 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’m not saying that you don’t deserve a honeymoon, but to be honest, if you’re hurting for money, a honeymoon is one of the last things you should be going on.  It’s one thing to spend a couple nights in a cabin, and a whole other issue to ask people to put you up at some retreat when you’re hurting for money as it is. 

    I would never participate in someone’s honeyfund.  I don’t care if its the same as giving them cash, it’s the pretense behind it for me.  Like, we recently decided to get a new car.  Did we really need a new car?  Nah, but we decided to get one anyway… but we didn’t ask other people to pay for it.  A honeymoon is not a necessary part of beginning a life together, IMO.

    Post # 10
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    2077 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I don’t see the problem with a honeymoon registry, especially if you and your Fiance have lived together for some time and already own everything you need for your home. Almost everything I read online about them is portrayed negatively, but as a guest I really wouldn’t mind it.

    Post # 11
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    1833 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Have you thought about not having any registries so that people give you cash, which you can then use to pay down your massive wedding debt? To me, that seems more important. I know you said a honeymoon is important to your fiance, but paying down all your debt should be the most important. Nobody needs a vacation that badly.

    Post # 12
    Member
    2708 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I dislike Honeymoon registries as well.  I think they are deceiving and a round-about way of asking for cash.  Also, it’s a very bad idea to rely on gifts to fund the vacation.  What happens if you don’t get enough to fund the trip?  What I think you should do is have a very small registry and when people ask, you (and your mom, FI’s mom, other family, etc.) can say that you are registered at X but are saving up for your honeymoon.  People will get the hint and give you cash.  And then you can use whatever money you do get to plan your honeymoon.

    Post # 13
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    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’m a bit old fashioned, too. I went to a wedding where a bride just had one, and I just got her some nice wine glasses and dessert dishes. 

    Post # 14
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    1061 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    You are probably going to get mostly money anyway.  In your area, is that the norm?  Find out from a recent bride what her money/gift split was (percent, not numbers) and I almost guarantee you it will be mostly cash anyway.

    What you should do with that $$ is the question.  I would probably put it towards the $20k you already owe, but that’s just me.

    We didn’t have the money for a honeymoon, so we went to a B&B for a couple of nights and went out for 1 really fancy dinner.  Did it bum me out?  Yep.  Did we make the best of it and have a nice, relaxing time?  Yep.

    Post # 15
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    4466 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    By reading your situation on the other thread, you need to skip the honeymoon completely.  The whole honeymoon is not going to get paid for via the honeymoon registry, and you would still need spending money, which you don’t have at the moment.

     

    ETA: I actually like honeymoon registries, but this is not the solution to OP’s (large) problem.

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