Post # 1
My Future In-Laws have contributed nothing to this wedding. Well, they got the cake ($300). They own a liquor store and said they would provide the champagne. I asked my caterer and he said two cases (24 bottles). I let them know, they said yeah, no problem. I had them over for dinner tonight to see the grand kids and they said they would bring it with them. We had dinner and they left the champagne in the garage. Ten f***ing bottles.
On top of that we finally talked about the rehearsal dinner and they want to have it AT MY PARENTS HOUSE. As if my parents haven’t done enough work already (wedding is on their farm). I mean seriously, the rehearsal is the only thing I have really asked or expected of them aside from the champagne (which they get AT COST and offered without me asking). So you expect to have it my house so my mother will do all of the work? My Future Father-In-Law was like, well we are having the rehearsal there, it would be easier just to do the dinner there too, everyone is going to see the wedding set up anyway, what does it matter? He’s a condescending prick to begin with, but that really rubbed me the wrong way.
I guess I wouldn’t be so livid if their daughter wasn’t going wedding dress shipping at fucking klienfelds for her 200 person wedding next year. And you can’t afford a restaurant for my rehearsal dinner? I call bullshit.
I AM SO MAD RIGHT NOW!! Would you be? Am I overreacting?
Vent over. Sorry for all the caps ladies 😉
Post # 3
your Future Father-In-Law sounds like a dumbass. i’d be pissed too. they’re being dumb. but, sometimes, you have to choose your battles. would you rather fight with them over this and risk pissing them off even more? or would you rather just let it go and have a good time, and try to ignore their cheap-ness?
also, not to make this any less of a “MY FIL’S ARE CHEAP ASSES!” rant. but maybe they’re tapped out because of her wedding? if they’re paying for her wedding, they could be tight on cash. and not every dress at kleinfeld is ridiculously expensive. they sell maggie sottero dresses there, and maggie’s are about average in price for wedding gowns.
Post # 4
I would probably be pissed, too. Have you brought this up with you FI? WHat does he think?
Post # 6
@colorofmyheart: She just got engaged. They haven’t put out anything yet! They are clearly saving the money for her wedding instead of contributing any of it to ours. I probably won’t say anything to them and neither will my Fiance even though he’s pissed. I know it’s not even worth it. I just had to vent!
Post # 7
I dunno… maybe I just do not put that much into weddings, but I feel like one should get married with zero expectations as to what others will be willing to do/offer. I find that expecting nothing usually saves a lot of angst and trouble. The one thing that would bother me would be them trying to put more work on my family.
Post # 8
I would just flat out say no to that idea. As if your parents don’t have enough to do the day before hosting a wedding without having to clean up from a rehearsal dinner the night before. I’d want to be cleaning my house a bit at time the week before and then leaving it untouched as much as possible. Not to mention it’s incredibly rude to just assume that you can throw a party at someone else’s house without speaking to them about it directly.
As for the champagne, I guess 10 bottles is more than they have to give you, but I’d inquire about possibly purchasing the additional 14 bottles from them at cost so there’s enough for everyone.
Post # 9
Your fiance’s parents are not obligated to give you anything for your wedding.
Is it kind of them to do so? Absolutely. But parents are not required to give anything to their children’s weddings.
Post # 11
You could just say that your parents don’t feel comfortable with that considering the set up for the wedding the next day.
Post # 12
@MsAmandaAnn: He feels really let down and pissed off 🙁 but he knows trying to talk to them about it like rational human beings is all but impossible. They just keep going on about how broke they are which is crazy bc they know we know its not true!!
Post # 13
@SapphireSun: Exactly this. Sory it isn’t going well. I would also allow your Fiance to handle all of the conversations with them and not to put it on you.
Post # 14
@Hyperventilate: In every wedding I have been a part of/known of/heard of the grooms parents throw the rehearsal dinner. And it’s not like I said I want x, y, and z. They said, how about we throw the rehearsal dinner at YOUR parents house. Who does that?
Post # 15
@AngelR88: I agree 110% Low expectations of what people will contribute financially yields low disappointment. We are insisting that our parents contribute NOTHING. Which they aren’t happy with and I’m actually interested in seeing what they will do about it. We will stick to our word even though we could REALLY use the money. Fight it, fight it.
I guess it’s too late to reset your expectations meter but try to just focus on your fiance and how lucky you are to be with him. I think your Future In-Laws are being rude but just try to be a gracious bride and look like a classy woman. Have a lovely wedding
Post # 16
I know they aren’t obligated to help but yeah I’d be pissed too.