MemberPeople always seem to have strong opinions on etiquette related topics, so I am curious to hear what the opinions are on this one!
I personally couldn’t care less if I do or don’t get a little gauze bag with 5 chocolate almonds in it.
MemberI wouldn’t care, but family and traditionalists might. We went with edible favours (macarons), mostly because we personally don’t enjoy favours (i.e. a spoon, candle holder …) some various household item that may or may not be personalized that is the 4th spoon or olive oil jar we have and simply, just don’t need but feel obigated to keep.
I don’t think they’ll be missed by most, but there may be a certain crowd that will notice/comment.
BeeNot at all! I never expect to receive something when I attend someone’s party. And if the couple wants to use the money from favors and put it into more food or alcohol (as I’ve seen some do), that’s even better than a favor to me!
MemberWe cut out favors and put more money toward the meal and cupcakes! We have close to 350 guests, so it would have been pretty expensive!!
MemberI forget to take a favor 75% of the time anyway, so I wouldn’t care in the least if there were no favors at all.
MemberSince favors are neither necessary nor required I’m not sure how anyone can justify feeling “turned off.” I’ll repost from the similar thread a couple of days ago:
Miss Manners on favors: “Who told you that you had to give out wedding favors? Etiquette has never thought of weddings as comparable to children’s birthday parties, where the guests might need consolation for not being the center of attention.”
If they are something a person wants to do, then by all means, but it’s not an obligation.
Memberfreshflowers: its not against etiquette to not have favours.
I couldn’t care less if there was favours or not, so long as the event was properly hosted. I will remember poor hosting above anything else.
MemberIt depends, I think photo booths where you get a photo strip are favors, and candy tables or cookie tables are good enough as favors.
I normally don’t take notice, especially if there is an open bar! If I did notice I would not make a deal out of it. If I was having a traditional wedding I’d do favors but we’re having a small intimate church wedding and taking those 20 guests out to dinner after. So no favors or cake cutting or dancing or anything like that.
MemberI can’t even remember if there were favors or not at the last 3 weddings I went to if that tells you anything….
MemberI wouldn’t notice. 9 times out of 10 I leave it on the table.
MemberI wouldn’t mind at all. Like PPs, I don’t usually even take them.
MemberI think that they are often one of the greatest wastes of money ever. I almost never remember to take the favours home and to be honest, I’d much rather have more cake than I would yet another little gauze bag with a sugared almond or two in it!
HostessNo way! Every time I get a favor (unless it’s really really really cool) I think…I wonder how much this cost them. It’s such a waste!
Memberfreshflowers: We aren’t doing favors at all. Your favor is a free meal + 5 hour open bar 🙂
MemberI’ve never noticed a lack of favors, but I remember the really good ones.
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