Post # 1
Maybe I’m just very emotional because it’s “that” time of the month.. but my Fiance just came over to hangout tonight and didn’t bring me anything. Not even a card. Would this bother you?
PS. It’s our first Valentine’s Day as an engaged couple…
Post # 3
I am a big card person so yes it would bother me, all I ever really want is a card anything else is a bonous….my Fiance is working 🙁 but he gave me flowers before he left like two days ago…..maybe he is doing it to throw you off and has a surprise 🙂
Post # 4
No, we dont acknowledge v-day so I wouldnt really care. This is our first married v-day, and I’m not expecting anything when I get home… cept to cook dinner as I normally do any other day.
Post # 5
I’m in a sensitive mood too so yeah it would bother me. I didn’t get anything either so I feel for you.
Post # 6
Would depend on your relationship and your gift giving policy…but yes, I would be a bit hurt also.
Did you get him anything? Do you routinely exchange gifts on holidays etc?
Post # 7
@MrsAu: No he isn’t 🙁 I actually asked him about it (sometimes I have a hard time biting my tongue) and he apologized and said that he’s just been really busy with work lately and didn’t have time to pick anything up. REALLY? He didn’t have time to stop at the store real quick and grab a card.. c’mon..
Post # 8
@Take The Reins: Yes I actually got him two cards and a few gifts. We always give gifts..he says he’s just been too busy with work 🙁
Post # 9
no for me (because we dont do cards/flowers and rarely do gifts) but i can respect that you are hurt
did you give him a card or do something special?
Post # 10
Aww hun I’m sorry. I know V-Day is a commercialized circus but it’s still nice to get something from your SO. Look on the bright side, at least he is spending the day with you. That’s a gift in itself right? (My Fiance is about three states away so I would be happy just to have him here).
Post # 11
Did you celebrate Valentines Day when you were dating? If it wasn’t a big deal then, your Fiance might not think its a big deal now.
Also – OP, don’t think I’m upset with you personally, but I really don’t like when women blame our sadness on our periods. We’re human. We’re ALLOWED to be in a sad mood or a bad mood and don’t need to blame nature on it. Our FIs have bad moods and people don’t automatically think they have PMS.
(It irks me even more when dudes assume this is the reason we’re upset.)
Sorry. End rant.
Post # 12
I’d be hurt if we’d set the expectation ahead of time and he blew that off knowing it would hurt your feelings.
@pinkshoes – We’re going to DH’s parents house tonight for dinner so I don’t have to cook. YAY! But no gifts, cards or anything here either.
Post # 13
@ForeverBlessed: I think it would bother me a little. Cards are so easy and inexpensive, I feel like guys should at least do that, especially since you got him something.
This is our first Valentine’s Day as an engaged couple, too, and I feel like I’ve had higher expectations this year than normal (we are not usually big Valentine’s Day people). It could be because it’s “that” time of the month for me, too 😉 Just remind yourself that having him is the best Valentine’s Day gift of all!
Post # 14
@ForeverBlessed: Yes, especially if I had planned out presents for him. I’d be crushed to not get a card. /hugs
Post # 15
I think it’s really important for couples to make their expectations clear to each other. If you want a card, flowers, gift, dinner out, it works so much better if you tell him that. Have a discussion some time about what your expectations are re hoildays, birthdays etc so you can get on the same page.
Many men just don’t think about these things the same way we do.
Post # 16
@futuremrsfitz18: I understand, but I hardly ever ever cry.. yet I can cry over the smallest things when I’m on my period. I’m really pathetic during that time. My hormones are crazy though – I’ve even had to see the doctor to try and get it straightened out.