Post # 1
Kind of random…but I love to experiment with my cooking. So, last night I decided to try wild mushroom risotto. My first attempt ever at making this. It was accompanied by brie and apple stuffed chicken breasts and Caesar salads; full leaf salads like at a restaurant. Anyway, the risotto took forever! 45 mins of stirring adding, stirring adding. When I was finally done, I let it sit for a moment while I set up our plates and made our salads. In that short amount of time, the risotto set a bit, and wasn’t as creamy as when I had just finished it. Oh well. So, I set it down we start to eat, and my Boyfriend or Best Friend asks me…”what is this?” I told him risotto, and he looked at me and said the consistency is off.
Now, I sort of took offense to this…no, my feelings were pretty hurt, and I’m still butt hurt about it this morning. Do any of you get where I’m coming from. Is that a valid reason to feel butt hurt, or am I just being sensitive about my cooking? He said it was good, but didn’t eat ANY of it! I tossed all of his, and the rest that was in the pan down the trash; I ate mine because it still tasted really good!
Post # 3
I wouldn’t be upset. I cook dinner every night, and every once in a while, something doesn’t work the way I expected it to. Fiance and I laugh about it and throw it out. Not a big deal. It doesn’t sound like he was trying to hurt your feelings.
Post # 4
It really does hurt when someone doesn’t like a new dish you’ve tried making and especially when you’ve worked so hard on it. I totally get that. Honestly, I do think you’re over sensitive a little bit, because he did try and cover up his dislike for it by saying it was good. Obviously it just wasn’t to his taste. Not much you can do but either never make it again or try and make it again and preface it all with “Okay, trying this again. If you don’t like it I won’t make it again” and make sure he’s honest with you!
Post # 5
I don’t know, My Fi reguarly tells me when something is off and he is almost always right. He does the bulk of cooking and I clean. I personally wouldn’t get offended by something small like that. I rather he be honest with me, and I wouldn’t want him to eat something he didn’t like just because I cooked it.
Post # 6
I dont think you should be upset about this still – we all make mistakes cooking, my H2B set fire to the oven a couple of weeks ago when he had people over for dinner, we just laighed.
These things happen!
Post # 7
I guess my feelings would be hurt. He mentioned something negative about it knowing it was the first time you had tried it out. I wouldnt let it get to me though, men don’t think like women. I’m sure his intent was not to hurt you.
I am sure the risotto was wonderful 🙂
Post # 8
@hardtoconcentrate: Oh I know he wasn’t trying to. But why say it in the first place? Why not just eat the damn meal and maybe say something afterward? It was only the consistency.
Also, he made a comment that he only said it because he watches all of those cooking shows and has seen several times how it’s supposed to look. But I repeat, it tasted really good! This man has NEVER cooked a meal in the 8 years we’ve been together! So how in the heck would he know!
Maybe I just needed to vent? I know he’s grateful for my cooking, as I also cook every night, and am really good about variety; mostly because I hate to eat the same thing over and over.
Post # 9
if he was a jerk about it after id worked so hardt o make the meal, yes i’d be upset. but sometimes you try new stuff and it doesnt work. id rather have him tell me he didnt like a labor intensive recipe like that than grin and bear it and have me thinking he want this for every special occasion.
Post # 10
I understand why you’re upset. You spent a lot of time preparing something that sounded really yummy, and he totally just told you that all of your work was wasted since it didn’t taste good to him.
Post # 11
This was one of the things I had to get used to cooking for two: not taking it personally when he doesn’t like something. I like to experiment as well, and he is pickier than I am, and doesn’t like the same preparations as I do sometimes. At first I would take personally but now I just let it roll off my back. He is still appreciative that I cook, he just doesn’t *love* every little thing I make.
Post # 12
Wow you all commented so fast! Thanks for the kind words of support. I just had to bite my tongue this morning so I wouldn’t say a thing! He just left for work, so I’m in the clear for a few hours to check myself! Maybe some kickboxing is in order to release some of this tension….I am a week out from you know…that lovely monthly…that usually explains the sensitivity.
Post # 13
Props on trying out risotto – it’s not always easy to make!
That said, I’d get over what your guy said. Every now and then my Darling Husband makes suggestions on what I’m cooking, especially if I’m just trying it out for the first time. He watches a lot of Food Network too, but he’s also decent in the kitchen and I respect his opinion enough to take it kindly as constructive criticism, not as a personal attack. Sometimes I get flare-ups of hurt – why doesn’t he just love everything I love?! – but definitely not sstill thinking about it the next am.
Post # 14
I love that you said butt hurt. I say that all the time. I would take offense to it a little bit. I hope he at least thanked you for taking the time to cook him such a great dinner! He definitely could have found a more tactful way to say it.
Post # 15
Have you ever made risotto before? I ask because you seem surprised that it took 45 minutes.
A good risotto is incredibly difficult. If your Fiance has only had good risotto from high end restuarants before, yours was probably not what he was expecting.
Post # 16
My boyfriend has learned not to criticize the food I’ve made for him especially if it takes a lot of time lol.
I see where you’re coming from, but he didn’t mean it as a personal dig.