(Closed) Would you be upset if bridesmaid wanted to wear this?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should I just let her wear this dress?
    Yes, you're being unreasonable : (15 votes)
    6 %
    No, it's too casual : (92 votes)
    39 %
    No, it has too much white : (112 votes)
    48 %
    Other (see my note below) : (14 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 62
    7770 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    It is not the white that bothers me, more the pattern.  Bridesmaid or Best Man are supposed to not stand out much.

    Post # 63
    241 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2004

    If she is not on board then perhaps she should attend the wedding as a guest instead of a bridesmaid????

    Post # 64
    645 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I voted other. If you don’t like the dress ask her to find a different one. You are not a bridezilla – you are the bride and if you don’t like it she shouldn’t wear it. There is a difference in freaking out on her and being a b- verses asking her to find a different dress. Offer to go with her if she keeps failing.

    Post # 65
    6040 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

    actually now that I think about all the ways she can get this wrong I think you should send her like ten different options and say pick one. No if, and’s or buts about it. She seems to not be able to stick within loose guidelines. make it more strict. Ok i think im done now lol

    Post # 66
    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I don’t like it, it’s too casual, and the white will make your dress look dingy. The pattern wouldn’t bother me, but everything else would. 

    Post # 68
    101 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I agree that it is too casual!

    Post # 69
    11461 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    @chelles07:  THIS! Exactly.

    Post # 70
    98 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I think the dress is just downright awful.. I’m sorry. So many things wrong with it; the pattern is hideous, there is too much white, it is really busy/distracting/in your face, etc. I’m sure you can kindly communicate that to her. 

    Post # 71
    6040 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

    @Beckster329:  Then I would stick with that. Find her like ten options that fit what you want but that are all fairly different. Different enough to make sure she has variety to choose from. Even if she finds things wrong with each one, stick to it and say I’m sorry but these are the choices I came up with so think it over and make a decision. I think once she sees that you are not backing down she will start to be more reasonable. Wearing a dress that you agree with is part of the role of a bridesmaid. 

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