(Closed) Would you be upset if he proposed with a promise ring?

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

Why did you have to return the ring? 🙁

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Do you have a picture? 

why did you have to return the bridal set? I personally wouldn’t have been thrilled with a promise ring but I’d be more worried as to why you had to return the other ring and that he told you to ‘stop being a baby about it’ that’s so rude and hurtful. 

 

Post # 4
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Newbee

Why did you have to return the ring? It seems silly if he bought it knowing full well he couldn’t afford it. Are finances a concern for the two of you?

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

imagine2:  could you afford the $1500 set? I don’t understand why he would buy it for you if he couldnt.. And taking it away after you loved it so much is pretty awful. If he always like this? Does he buy himself expensive items? 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

How old are you guys?  How are your finances?

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

I wouldn’t marry him yet. He isn’t ready and it has nothing to do with the size of the ring. Sometimes that’s all a guy can afford. It has more to do with the fact that he lied and played a game with your emotions. That isn’t cool. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I’d be more upset about him giving then taking away, as opposed to being upset about the promise ring.

If you’re ready to get engaged, a couple should understand each other’s financial position so, unless he’s being cheap for cheaps sake, it shouldn’t have been a shock that an expensive ring wasn’t an option. 

I really don’t understand buying a bridal set he couldn’t afford and then taking it back. Dick move, in my opinion.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper

imagine2:  Is $120 truly what he can afford? It is shitty that you had to return the other one, but the choice was to pay rent or pay for a ring, rent is the right choice. If he can easily afford $1500 though, I would see it differently. Does he have expensive hobbies, car, etc?

Also, echoing PPs about his attitude — it sucks. “I wish I could afford a more expensive ring but I can’t right now” is way different than “I was just saying what you wanted to hear, now quit being a baby.”

Post # 13
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Honey bee

leilarobs2:  +1

 

Sorry to hear about this, imagine2:. Yes, I’d accept a promise ring as an e-ring if 1) we had discussed it or 2) he explained his financial strategy (doing a small ring now with an upgrade later) and that I was comfortable with that.

 

  

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

edited comment, sorry

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 11 months ago by  mangosandcats.

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