(Closed) would you be upset if someone wore this to your wedding??

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 92
1 posts
  • Wedding: July 2010

As it happens, I’m the one in the middle — yes, in all white. One of my engaged friends found this site and recognized the picture… To end your wondering: I was not in the least offended by my friend’s choice of dress. I blinked at it, saw it was peachy-pink, and cared not at all what she had on, because she did me the honor of bringing up the gifts with the other girl in the picture, and I was just thrilled to have my best friends celebrating with me.

I’m much, much more upset with the fact that three pages of people judging my friend exists on the internet, and hope for her sake no one points this out to her like it was pointed out to me, because I’m sure she’d be hurt by whichever of her facebook friends posted this. I had a very small intimate wedding, which meant that thankfully, there wasn’t a single person there who I would ever bother getting upset with about something so trivial–much less throwing someone out, or, for chrissakes, spilling wine on her??? I was much too busy enjoying the happiest day of my life to be petty.

Post # 93
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

First: I would be pissed. It basically looks white in pictures, and the fabric and shape are too much like a wedding dress. I would probably comment to my groom about it…and move on. It wouldn’t ruin my night. However, pictures would probably irk me when I looked back. 

Second: Good for you!…she’s your friend, so she obviously knows you and knew you would be okay with it! However, as you can see–alot of other brides would not be okay with it, and that’s okay too. 

Third: Opinions were asked for, and whoever posted got them–people on this site cannot control who posts what, and I’m sorry you had to run across it that way. Therefore, sorry if your friend would be hurt to see this, and if it hurt you too…but now they know the consensus–wearing something even close to white, in a wedding dress shape and fabric is probably not a good idea at someone elses wedding that you don’t know so well. Even though some people may have gone overboard in how they would have reacted, bottom line…it’s probably not a good idea next time.

AND hopefully the ultimate goal was to give others feedback, and not make fun. Hopefully, others now know not to make the same mistake, because it’s most likely the bride would be upset. 

Glad to hear you had a great time at your wedding, and I’m sure it was a wonderful celebration! Best Wishes!



Post # 94
1568 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

So, in general, perhaps it’s not the wisest idea to post photos of people in a public internet forum without their knowledge, especially when accompanied by negative commentary. Sometimes this doesn’t work out well.

I would have thought that someone wearing a white gown to my wedding would have pissed me off, but honestly, once things were in swing, nothing in the world could have bothered me on my wedding day. One of my guests actually did wear a white dress and I remember marveling to myself at the fact that I did not care a single bit. I was really too busy having the time of my life to worry about anything at all.

Post # 95
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I totally agree with southernbride10. Though this was not a cool way for you to have found out…..it did happen; and as you can see from the responses, as this has generated a substantially long thread, the majority consensus deemed this as tactless and discourteous.  

So, cedebe though it did not bother you and your friend did not think twice about it, you both are in the minority.  

Hopefully other invitees reading this blog will take home a nice educational message: dont wear anything remotely resembling a bride to someone else’s wedding…..YOUR DAY WILL COME.

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