Post # 1
So valentines day is tomorrow, and I got my husband a thoughtful gift, which I wrapped and put in the living room with a valentines day card. I went to school and got home to find that he had come home from work and immediately opened it.
I’m upset because it was clearly for valentines day (card! wrapped!) and I had a sweet little explanation I wanted to say to him when he opened it.
Even if it wasn’t obviously for valentines day, would it have killed him to wait two (2) hours for me to get home before he ripped into it? I mean when you give someone a gift it’s nice to see their reaction and be there.
I got home and saw that he had already opened it and felt disapointed and a little hurt that he didn’t consider my feelings or…use his head that maybe this was meant for tomorrow.
Now I have nothing for him for valentines day tomorrow..
I got kind of upset with him and now he’s mad at me for causing a fight over something so little. But honestly, I’m curious:
a) would you be kind of hurt/upset if your partner did this?
b) would you open a gift from your partner if you knew he/she was going to be home in 2 hours?
c) am I crazy for assuming he would know that it was meant for tomorrow?
Thanks bees! I hate that we’re mad at each other when I had come home in such a good mood and was excited for being all lovey tomorrow
Post # 3
@LoverFace2000: I wouldn’t be mad…I know that if I left a gift out FI would assume it was to open then and there, not to wait. Otherwise, why put it out? It’s not like it’s Christmas where you display presents under the tree waiting for the day. I guess maybe just explain to him that you meant for him to wait so there are no misunderstandings next time. But don’t ruin V-Day by getting cranky with each other over it 🙂
Post # 4
If I found it in the living room, I’d think it was left there for me to open. I’d call my husband before I opened it, but wouldn’t be mad if he did what your husband did. I’d think it was cute that he was so excited to open it.
Don’t let it ruin your evening or tomorrow. You also don’t have to get him anything else, he just opened his present early.
Post # 5
@LoverFace2000: He may have thought you left it for him to open? I would have thought that, if it was set up in the living room. If it was tucked in a corner off to the side I would assume to wait. But if it was on a table or staged in anyway I wouldve assumed it was left to be opened as a romantic surprise.
I could understand being disappointed, but I wouldnt be angry. Not to minimize your feelings, but there are so many worse things someone could do.
Post # 6
Why did you set it out if you didn’t want him to open it? If my SO set out a present for me, I’d assume he wanted me to open it.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
A) I would be disappointed, yes. Especially if I really wanted to see his reaction.
B) Depends… But I would probably wait, or text if it was okay to open. But men are different creatures.
C) I wouldn’t say that you’re crazy, but I wouldn’t be upset that he didn’t figure out it was for V-day. He probably didn’t even think about tomorrow being Valentine’s Day. He just came home, saw a gift and a card, and thought, “Wow, LoverFace sure is swell!” and opened his gift.
Don’t be upset with him. It’s okay to be disappointed, but he didn’t do it to cause trouble. My fiance probably would have done the same thing, lol.
Post # 8
@LoverFace2000: If you didn’t want him to open it, you should have put it in the closet. If my husband left a gift out for me, I’d open it, too. You do have a v-day present for him, he’s just already opened it. I wouldn’t waste energy fighting over a hallmark holiday.
Post # 9
Honestly, if I saw a present out in our living room I would assumed I was supposed to open it. I would likely call/text my husband first to make sure, but why put it out if it’s not meant to be opened?
Post # 11
I don’t think he was unreasonable for opening it. How was he to know he was supposed to wait until you were there/tomorrow? I don’t understand why you put it out for him today if you wanted him to open it tomorrow! I’d be annoyed with you for being annoyed with me!
But really, it doesn’t have to ruin the day for the two of you. It’ll be a funny story looking back on it in a couple years!
Post # 12
I would be upset. I would never open a gift without asking first.
Post # 13
If you left it out why are you upset he opened it? You left it out. I would open a gift left for me in my living room if I found it.
Post # 14
If you didn’t want him to have it now, you shouldn’t have left it out for him. You should’ve hid it and given it to him when you wanted him to have it.
If I saw a gift left out for me, I would’ve opened it, too. I would’ve figured you left it out as a surprise for me and, since it was out, it was mine to open. Why would I have to ask to open something that was obviously left out for me to open? And, why should I have to wait for you to open it? If you wanted me to wait for you, you should’ve given it to me in person.
Post # 15
Honestly, I would figure a wrapped present left out in the open is meant to be opened. If it was that important, I would have left a note (DO NOT OPEN UNTIL…) or something.
Post # 16
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
If I saw that my FI had left a present out, I would think that it was supposed to be a sweet surprise that I was supposed to open right away.
I would be disappointed if I left a present out expecting that my FI would wait to open it, but I wouldn’t blame him for opening it since I was the one who left it out and it was just a misunderstanding of expectations.. not sure if that made sense?