Post # 1
I’m going to propose to my girlfriend. She is 29 I am 39. I wanted to get her a unique e engagement ring but it’s not a diamond. I have a friend who is a gem buyer so he buys rough gems, has them cut, then sells them. He has a beautiful, 1.9 it light blue pear sapphire that he got from a mine in Madagascar (he went there). I’m going to have it set in a halo of small diamonds.
She isn’t a “blingy” type person and is very frugal. She pinned lots of diamond rings but also pinned one almost exactly like the one I want to have made. It’s not a cheap ring by any means, but I am just worried she will be disappointed that it’s not a diamond even though, through my buddy, the stone is WAY more than I ever could have afforded in a diamond. I like to hope she would be happy no matter what ring I got her, and like the fact that there is some thought and a story behind this, more than “i picked it out at a local store”.
I’m sure a lot has to do with personal opinion, so I’m sort asking I general, if you were proposed to, with him having no idea what you like, would you be bummed it wasn’t a diamond? I think Im more worried that she would be embarassed to show her friends or something. Maybe Im just being silly.
Post # 2
Has she ever said anything about wanting a diamond only? I think what matters most is the thought behind it.
Post # 3
if she is not into blingy, are you sure she is going to like a halo? i personally don’t like them.
if i was proposed to with a saphire, i love it immediately bc it came from DH. but if i was expecting a diamond, i would probably ask down the road why he went with this stone.
Post # 4
If she pined a sapphire she would probably be open to receiving one… My E ring is a sapphire and I love that its not common… It was also cheaper than an equalivent diamond which my frugal self adores.
Post # 5
This is such a personal thing. Have you ever talked to her about it? Just in general, does she like non-diamond rings?
For me, I was clear from the start that I didn’t want a diamond so I would have preferred a sophire (although what I really wanted, and got, was a stoneless ring). But I’m not your Girlfriend.
Post # 6
Colored stones are a very particular choice. If she’s never actually mentioned a color stone I would be wary with one. If she’s pinned mostly diamond rings then I would think that says she prefers diamonds or clear stones.
Post # 7
I think personal preference is important. Even if you’re at a jewellery store then check out sapphire earrings and try and sound out her opinion. We can’t tell you whether she would be happy with it or not.
Post # 8
You know her best than anyone. Did you consider picking the ring togehter?
I have a sapphire and we picked it out together but in the end it was my opinion that mathered most since I am the one wearing it.
Post # 9
1.9 ct and a halo could easily be a bit much for someone who isn’t into bling.
Post # 10
Is she expecting the proposal? If the answer is yes, you should ask her how she feels about sapphires. I personally would have been happy to be proposed to with a Cracker Jack ring, but every person is different wrt his or her jewlery preferences.
Also, to caution you against taking Pinterest as gospel, my sister pinned many blingy rings and my brother in law assumed that is what she wanted. He asked her, thank goodness, because it turned out the only reason she pinned any of them was because they were princess cut. I tell you this, because it could be the case that she pinned the sapphire ring because of the halo, not the sapphire.
TL;DR You are investing a lot of time and money in this; it would be best to just ask for her opinion directly.
Post # 11
I wouldnt use the term “upset” to describe how I would feel if I were to receive a white sapphire… I would feel a bit sad however if it is a white sapphire becuase they become very cloudy within just a few months and to me it would feel like money wasted – which you stated she is pretty frugal. If its a blue sapphire or pink sapphire then I personally wouldnt mind at all! They are unique and beautiful and I think an engagement ring in general holds a lot of sentimental value.
Post # 12
I have a sapphire engagement ring and I absolutely love it! But I did tell my husband that I wanted a sapphire and had no interest in diamonds.
I would think if she’s pinned some sapphire rings she would be open to having one.
Post # 13
Sweet story. With all of the thought you’ve put into this, I doubt she will hate it. Will she LOVE it though? Not sure anyone on here will be able to answer that question. Have you thought about asking her best friend/sister? They should have a better understanding of her tastes.
Post # 14
I have a diamond ring and a sapphire ring, so no, it wouldn’t bother me.
However, if she has pinned 98% diamond rings and then has one or two sapphires pinned that could mean some very different things. She might have pinned the sapphires because she liked the settings, not because she likes the stone.
Post # 15
I don’t think a 1.9 ct halo is very “blingy” – see mine, which is just shy of 3ct, but much darker than what you’re describing. That said, my now-husband knew that I wanted a sapphire ring so I agree with posters above that this might be a bit risky. How important is the element of surprise?