(Closed) Would you be upset if you got a sapphire engagement ring

posted 4 years ago in Engagement
Post # 32
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Sugar bee

I don’t know.. someone looking at my secret pinterest ring board might think I was open to a colored gemstone because I have some pinned either because I like the setting or because I like the wedding band the ring is paired with in the photo, not because I want a morganite/sapphire/ruby/emerald ring. 

You know her better than we do.  

But ask yourself this.. how will you feel and how will you react if it turns out she would have preferred a diamond (or other clear stone) and asks if the ring can be changed?  What if she doesn’t love the sapphire you/your friend have chosen?

Have you considered proposing with a stand-in ring and then designing a ring together? 

Post # 33
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

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rubiryan :  Hmm, it does seem to be in line with what she is pinning, but she could just be pinning things because she likes the shape of the stone or the setting… Are you able to swap the saphire out for a diamond if she doesnt like it? As personal a touch as it is, if she didnt want a colored stone, it would be a tough sell. You really do want her to love it, and i really hope you dont get hurt feelings if she doesnt. It would have nothing to do with you, it would just be about having to wear it every day. In my opinion, i would want a diamond or diamond alternative because i would always worry about the colored stone “clashing” with an outfit. I think the sentiment is beautiful, but giving her the option to swap it out would be really good. 

Post # 34
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Busy bee

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rubiryan :  what is the story behind it that will melt her heart?

It seems like you might be upset if she didn’t like it and it is a relatively ‘out there’ engagement ring if she hasn’t outwardly expressed a desire for a sapphire.

Post # 35
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Busy bee

Seems like you should bring it up in conversation but be subtle. It could be she likes pear cuts and rose gold, not necessarily colored stones based on that Pinterest board. But you know her better than a bunch of strangers! Maybe she would love the Sapphire!

Post # 36
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Bumble Beekeeper

Based upon what you just shared it appears you are on the right track. It also, as PP suggested, appears you may be more invested in the story than you are in making sure she is happy with the ring.  Are you open to changes if she tells you it’s not what she’d hoped for? 

Has she tried on rings at all? What I pinned and what I liked on my hand weren’t always the same. 

Post # 37
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Blushing bee

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rubiryan :  If I were judging based on Pinterest, I would say she does indeed have an interest in a colored stone. But again, no guarantees that what one pins is exactly what one wants.

Post # 38
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Bumble bee

I have a blue sapphire engagement ring so I obviously love them. However, DH and I talked about rings beforehand and decided to do a sapphire. He completely picked it out but under the knowledge that I didn’t want a diamond. 

Hopefully she loves it. But you need to go in with an open mind if she doesn’t. 

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think she’ll love it. 

Post # 40
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Sugar bee

I think it’s gorgeous and very thoughtful. Personally I’d love it. But if it wasn’t to her taste for everyday wear, would you be open to “upgrading” to a diamond in the future and her using this ring as a special occasions/right hand ring? 

Post # 41
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I wear a 1ct purple color change sapphire. I love it but you should talk to her about if she’s a sapphire girl or a diamond girl. It’s a very particular to the individual person. For example, I could have gotten a diamond but went for the sapphire instead because I wanted a colored ring. I tried my setting with a diamond and hated it. Some women won’t accept anything but a diamond and would consider getting a sapphire rude. So really check with her…

 

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Update, so I just saw the Pinterest and yes I think she’s into color. That’s how mine looked too.

Post # 43
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Newbee

I think I had a couple of those rings on my Pinterest board too! 

I have a sapphire engagement ring, so I might be a little biased, but I think your idea sounds wonderful- the stone is beautiful too! 

My fiance proposed without a ring, and we found a designer and setting we both liked and went from there, but even before the proposal it had pretty much been settled that neither of us wanted a diamond as the center stone. 

I think the fact that she has a number of rings with colored stones on her board means you are headed in the right direction. You might want to drop a hint or two, or fish for some more information, to get a better idea if you still feel unsure. 

Best of luck!!

Post # 45
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Sugar bee

Okay, after seeing her pins, she will clearly love it.

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