Post # 31
She pinned a bunch of rings. The main theme was rose gold. Most were simpler setrings. She had various cuts but at least 5 were pair cut. Most had a half or full halo, even if small. There was about 30% that weren’t diamonds. Morganite, Tanzinite, and Moisinite(sp) were all in there.
The engagement is a surprise, so I can’t ask too many questions although I am trying. She really has no close friends or sisters. Her brothers wouldn’t know and I can’t ask her mom yet. I am on a time crunch as the planned proposal is about 6 weeks away.
The sapphire is what they call Diego blue (from the Diego mine) and very rare. My buddy (I’ve known him since age 10) pretty much promised she would love it. He suggested letting the ring do the talking then a few weeks later when she asks about it, tell her the story and melt her heart. He said the stone is just gorgeous.
I’ll try and post a picture of the ring she pinned and the stone.
Post # 32
I don’t know.. someone looking at my secret pinterest ring board might think I was open to a colored gemstone because I have some pinned either because I like the setting or because I like the wedding band the ring is paired with in the photo, not because I want a morganite/sapphire/ruby/emerald ring.
You know her better than we do.
But ask yourself this.. how will you feel and how will you react if it turns out she would have preferred a diamond (or other clear stone) and asks if the ring can be changed? What if she doesn’t love the sapphire you/your friend have chosen?
Have you considered proposing with a stand-in ring and then designing a ring together?
Post # 33
- Wedding: November 2019 - Canada
Hmm, it does seem to be in line with what she is pinning, but she could just be pinning things because she likes the shape of the stone or the setting… Are you able to swap the saphire out for a diamond if she doesnt like it? As personal a touch as it is, if she didnt want a colored stone, it would be a tough sell. You really do want her to love it, and i really hope you dont get hurt feelings if she doesnt. It would have nothing to do with you, it would just be about having to wear it every day. In my opinion, i would want a diamond or diamond alternative because i would always worry about the colored stone “clashing” with an outfit. I think the sentiment is beautiful, but giving her the option to swap it out would be really good.
Post # 34
what is the story behind it that will melt her heart?
It seems like you might be upset if she didn’t like it and it is a relatively ‘out there’ engagement ring if she hasn’t outwardly expressed a desire for a sapphire.
Post # 35
Seems like you should bring it up in conversation but be subtle. It could be she likes pear cuts and rose gold, not necessarily colored stones based on that Pinterest board. But you know her better than a bunch of strangers! Maybe she would love the Sapphire!
Post # 36
Based upon what you just shared it appears you are on the right track. It also, as PP suggested, appears you may be more invested in the story than you are in making sure she is happy with the ring. Are you open to changes if she tells you it’s not what she’d hoped for?
Has she tried on rings at all? What I pinned and what I liked on my hand weren’t always the same.
Post # 37
If I were judging based on Pinterest, I would say she does indeed have an interest in a colored stone. But again, no guarantees that what one pins is exactly what one wants.
Post # 38
I have a blue sapphire engagement ring so I obviously love them. However, DH and I talked about rings beforehand and decided to do a sapphire. He completely picked it out but under the knowledge that I didn’t want a diamond.
Hopefully she loves it. But you need to go in with an open mind if she doesn’t.
Post # 40
I think it’s gorgeous and very thoughtful. Personally I’d love it. But if it wasn’t to her taste for everyday wear, would you be open to “upgrading” to a diamond in the future and her using this ring as a special occasions/right hand ring?
Post # 41
I wear a 1ct purple color change sapphire. I love it but you should talk to her about if she’s a sapphire girl or a diamond girl. It’s a very particular to the individual person. For example, I could have gotten a diamond but went for the sapphire instead because I wanted a colored ring. I tried my setting with a diamond and hated it. Some women won’t accept anything but a diamond and would consider getting a sapphire rude. So really check with her…
Post # 42
Update, so I just saw the Pinterest and yes I think she’s into color. That’s how mine looked too.
Post # 43
I think I had a couple of those rings on my Pinterest board too!
I have a sapphire engagement ring, so I might be a little biased, but I think your idea sounds wonderful- the stone is beautiful too!
My fiance proposed without a ring, and we found a designer and setting we both liked and went from there, but even before the proposal it had pretty much been settled that neither of us wanted a diamond as the center stone.
I think the fact that she has a number of rings with colored stones on her board means you are headed in the right direction. You might want to drop a hint or two, or fish for some more information, to get a better idea if you still feel unsure.
Best of luck!!
Post # 44
She did say a while back, she didn’t want me to spend a ton. All said and done, I will be between $3-4k into this ring that will be worth $5-$6k so if she doesn’t like it, I will be able to recoup most my money and she can go buy whatever she wants. I get she has to wear it every day, so i want her to like it. If she doesn’t like saphires, there is 20 other stones from color to clear she can pick out or she can get a diamond at half the karat weight if she really must have a diamond. She would need to realize though that it then didn’t come from me, and I guess while it maybe wouldn’t hurt my feelings, it sort of ruins any bit of thought behind it. I was married before and after 8 years my (now ex) wife went and bought herself a new wedding ring. While I respected what it stood for and was happy she liked it, any bit of nostalgia was gone. It’s a tricky position to be in.
From everyone’s responses(which are much appreciated both ways), I sort of get two things. 1. A sapphire is acceptable for an engagement ring (doesn’t always have to just be a diamond) and 2. It comes down to if the person likes sapphires or not. I really think she will like the ring. Like if I had just bought it for her for whatever, she would like it. But for an engagement ring there is certain expectations.
I’m going to try and question her some more without giving up too much and ruining the surprise. My buddy is mailing the stones to me to look at and I’ve spoken with a jeweler about a custom setting. If I get the feeling she wants a diamond, I’ll just go buy a small one and give her that instead.
Post # 45
Okay, after seeing her pins, she will clearly love it.