Would you be upset if you got a sapphire engagement ring

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 106
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

anabee323 :  The word ‘upset’ is in the title of the original post – just responding.

I agree with you: it’s important to value your partner’s opinions and take what they like into consideration. I also find the idea of being upset over receiving a piece of jewelry that is not ‘perfect’ to be kind of gross. I’m not saying that anyone else should think this, or that his Girlfriend will react like this. I just don’t value jewelry all that much, I suppose.

Post # 107
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Huge mistake.  Make damn sure she wants a sapphire first. 

Post # 108
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Busy bee

Bunnyang :  Oh, I get that, and I totally agree with you on that. And for the engagement, I don’t think a ring is necessary at all. It’s nice to have for sure, but it’s not the main point of the engagement, which is the commitment to get married between two people. But most women do like to have one, and that’s okay.

Personally, I would prefer not to have any engagement ring at all if I would be getting one that is not my style, because if it’s not my style I’m probably not going to want wear it (no offense, like I said, I don’t think that the ring does much other than symbolize the commitment and I guess I’m not as tied to pieces of jewelry as some people are). I totally get that many women don’t share that opinion with me…for many women the engagement ring is an essential part of getting engaged and should be worn daily. I’m coming from a different mentality, but in both cases I think communication is important. By the time a couple is ready to get engaged, taking that step in life shouldn’t come as a real surprise anyway.

Post # 109
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Bunnyang :  I think it says a lot more about who OP is. He is getting her a sapphire because he can get more for less, despite the fact that it doesn’t seem like it would be his GFs preference.  He has her Pinterest board and he is choosing to go with the easiest option for him rather than thinking about his Girlfriend.

Post # 110
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Wow, I don’t really understand why this went so sour. I would love a sapphire ring. She has clearly pinned multiple pictures that are in the realm of what you are making. I think she’ll love it. I don’t understand why anyone would get upset about getting a sapphire, it’s a pretty blue stone not some controversial statement. 

Post # 111
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

nonablu :  I don’t think anyone is getting upset, just pointing to OP that he is taking a risk as he has said at least 70% or more of her pinned rings are diamond.

Post # 112
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I would be more upset if my FH didn’t ask me what I liked.

Post # 113
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Busy bee

The jewelry blogger Gem Gossip has a pretty similar (second) engagement ring to what OP has in mind, but the cut on GG’s ring is freaking unbelievable! I love hers and the idea of the ring – I just think OP’s friend could get him a better stone (and that OP could have a waaay better attitude). That said, it’s definitely not for everyone. Maybe OP can find out if his girlfriend is a Gem Gossip fan?

Post # 114
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Wannabee

I was really hoping for an update on this.  All that reading then…nothing 😕  Hope it all worked out, OP.

Post # 115
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2018 - City, State

I know this thread is old and dead but 

1 I hope to hear what happened and

2 I personally can’t stand sapphires in general. That being said I’m totally for nostalgia and if my fiance got me that ring made up with a story and tried his best without ruining the surprise I would wear it happily. I’m not overly attached to jewellery but the commitment and memory.

When I read people upgrade or change their rings it crushes my soul because I couldn’t bear to do that and give up the peice with the memory. (but each to their own just my view)

So I think OP knows best for his love.

Post # 116
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Helper bee

rubiryan :  I know I’m getting a Montana Sapphire and I’m absolutely thrilled! My only caution would be to take a quick glance in her closet and make sure the shade of blue you’re looking at will go well with your wardrobe. It sounds lovely and I’m sure she’ll adore it!

Post # 117
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI

I say don’t drop a ton of money on something you’re worried she won’t like. If it were me I’d appreciate all the thought that went into something so unique for me.  But a diamond would still have been my first choice.  

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