Post # 1
Yesterday my aunt put on facebook “Happy Festivus. Air your greivances and I’ll air mine” (it’s from seinfeld). I was loking at some of the comments people posted and she said “people who profess to be writers yet use vocabulary incorrectly (I’m exempting those of us who don’t call ourselves writers from this to some extent, but when you want to do something professionally you should at least be competent at it.”
I felt like this was completely directed at me and my Fiance. I may now know everyone she is friends with by my Fiance is going to school to be a writer, and I’m going to school to be an English teacher but would love to write on the side professionally. I feel like I’m not nearly done with school, and maybe that’s not a good enough excuse but I feel like it’s kind of a harsh comment.
Am I stupid for being a little irritated? Would you be asking her whats up if you were in my position? Or am I just overreacting?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t assume it was directed at you unless you do use vocabulary incorrectly (and frequently enough for her to notice). Even then, I’d sort of take it as a wake-up call to step up my game!
Post # 4
@Mrs Grape: true true. I know I use it incorrectly, but to be honest I don’t really realize when I do, or if it happens it’s because I text my updates from my really crappy cellular device
Post # 5
I probably would be. I would like to tell you not to be upset, but honestly, I think I would. LOL.
Post # 6
I think lots of people have issues with misused or misspelled words–both using them and hating them. I wouldn’t necessarily take it to personally, maybe just watch how you speak and make sure to edit any typos or mistakes.
Post # 7
I would assume that she’s a mean/irritable person and ignore her – not worth your time.
Post # 8
I’m not really close to my extended family (aunts and uncles) so if one of them were to put a posting that my have something related to what I do or study, I really wouldn’t think too much of it. Has this been an issue with her before? Have you had face-to-face discussions on your or your FIs profession with her? If yes, okay it might be hinted at you, if not, I wouldn’t think too much of it.
Post # 9
You know what I hate? Mean facebook posts/statuses that make you wonder who they’re directedd at. I would be irritated too. She’s probably not talking about you, but you’re well within your rights to be frustrated :(.
Post # 10
I would have been upset. Probably, I would have jumped on her status and aired my grievance about “passive-aggressive people who won’t just say what they mean.”
Post # 11
It’s possible she could be “airing a grievance” about a coworker, other friend or who knows.
I would totally ignore that old cranky-pants and have a martini.
Post # 12
First of all, I was an english major and I’m a stickler for good language and writign skills. I hate the text message spelling and correct myself when I speak incorrectly. I usually don’t correct anyone else, except Darling Husband but rarely and only when we’re alone. I wouldn’t assume it’s directed at you. Tons of people speak and write incorrectly, so it’s probably more of a general comment.
I can’t understand why she’d post about grievances right before the holidays though. Seems like kind of a downer.
Post # 13
@mrstilly: And yet you misspelled “writing” and failed to capitalize “English.” 😉 I agree with you, though; it’s probably more of a general comment than a specific attack.