(Closed) Would you be upset with your friend over this?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would be pissed.  The worst part is she ditched you & then didn’t even ask if you wanted to join them.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would be SUPER irritated! I really don’t like girls who are not independent, it’s ok to have a life seperate from your SO’s! People have different interests and that isn’t a bad thing and everybody needs time away from the other. I’m in a military relationship and spent most of our relationship alone and in school while he was stationed and deployed. I am very independent and I can’t really deal with girls who aren’t. You have every reason to be bothered by that. Girls shouldn’t let guys get in the way of friend ships….and you said this was this girls boyfriend…SHE ISN’T EVEN MARRIED! WHAT?!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am pretty particular about who I do and don’t hang out with.  And if this situation happened to me, I would probably just never talk to the girl again.  I have a steady group of core friends who I know would not do this to me… I’m at a stage in my life where it’s not worth the heartache.  To me, she doesn’t sound like a very good friend at all.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

It’s lame yeah.. but sometimes it happens.

Some girls can’t stand to be away from their boyfriends, even more so if its a fresh relationship.

Next time you invite her for something, tell her its a girls day out, maybe she’ll get the idea.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’d be more irritated over the ditching than the boyfriend.

I’d let it go, though, and just not invite her to things. If she inquires as to why, I’d remind her of this. But I’m spiteful, so, there’s that.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Ugh, that’s lane. Well, you said you didn’t know her all that well, and now you certainly know her better. Sounds like she isn’t going to be one who you spend a lot of girl time with… Looks like she will be more of a work friend. :/

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

What a jerk.  I am sorry you thought this might become a better friend, but I don’t think is the kind of friend you want.   I think that is totally flaky of her.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

I would be super annoyed and I probably not invite her to anything else in the future. :-/

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

I agree, this was rude!! Don’t judge me, but I’m one of those girls who isn’t independent of my FH. He’s my best friend not just my partner. I do try to have girl time but I have much more fun When he’s around. But, I would never ditch my friend to be with my SO, especially if my friend invited me first. You need to tell her your feelings and let her know asap. If she doesn’t see it from your side, then she probabably never will. she’s dependent on her Boyfriend or Best Friend so she might feel strongly about it like you do about being independent. If you can’t see yourself staying friends with her, maybe keep your friendship casual or move it to double dates. There are women like this and they might be really wrapped up in thier relationship vs friendship, point it out to her.

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