(Closed) Would you be upset?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Would you be upset?
    Yes, he broke a promise. : (41 votes)
    53 %
    No, You are happy so don't worry about it. : (17 votes)
    22 %
    Other : (19 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    It’s only been a week ~! But if he dosen’t propose soon (Christmas?), I say move out. My husband and I had the same arrangement.

    Post # 4
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    3762 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I would be upset but I also question why you actually moved without a ring?

    Have you talked to him about this since moving in together?  I think you need to make it clear that although you moved in together and everything is going great, you still expect to get engaged. 

    I would be concerned that he will get “comfortable” and it would take a lot longer than you are hoping. 

     

    Post # 5
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    966 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Yep.  Even though we had no such agreement, and I moved in with him mostly because my physical and mental condition at the time wouldn’t let me live alone, it pisses me off that nine months later, there’s still no proposal.  He finally decided that he wants to marry me, but the actual proposal hasn’t happened.

    Post # 6
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    5778 posts
    Bee Keeper

    You went along with it without standing your ground, so why be upset? Maybe at yourself,tho.

    Post # 7
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    442 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    How can you be upset with him when you moved in together w/o a ring? He didn’t force you to move in there with him, did he? I know you thought he was going to propose before you moved in, but he didn’t and you moved in anyway. The only person you can blame is yourself.

    Post # 8
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    23 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Ladies, you have to put your foot down. OP, yes, I got upset and in no uncertain terms did I tell him “it’s now or never honey”.  He was more than willing to get engaged. For us, it was just a matter of money and he wanted to wait till our one year anniversary to make it special. At any rate, wait a bit but make sure you tell him everyday that you are not a child and expect to get engaged to the man you are living with. He dosen’t like it, then HE can move out !

    Post # 9
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    23 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @7mom: and smyley

    A LITTLE HARSH !

    Post # 11
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    5657 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    You should have stood your ground and not moved in to begin with. At this point, I would bring it up with him again (try not to press too hard though, in case he has something planned), just mention that you were expecting to be engaged.  

    Post # 12
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    290 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Your story is similar to mine. I will only move in with my boyfriend when we are engaged.

    I will only start looking for a place when I have the ring on my finger, not a moment before. This for me is set in stone.

    My advice is when you and your boyfriend have a minute, remind him of the promise. But do not sound as an ultimatum. Say very casualy and in general terms about the promise. If he does not propose by the end of the year then you have the right to be upset.

    Good luck.

    Post # 13
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    714 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I voted other because you are as much if not more to blame than him for your situation.  You can’t be mad at him for something you let happen with your eyes wide open.

    Post # 14
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    14658 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    If his name is the one one the lease that means you can move out anytime.  I think there are 2 things wrong here.  1, he didnt hold up to the proposal and decided to go full steam ahead with moving in. 2, is that you went ahead and moved along just as fast as he did, and looked and applied for the apartment without a ring.  The two of you both did not hold up to what you said you’d do.

    Post # 15
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    23 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @Mrs.LetsGoPens: Don’t listen to any negativity from these girls ! He may be planning a Christmas proposal ! This is not your fault, you love him and are not going to bail just yet ! So just hang in there but make sure you don’t stick around too long after the Holidays if santa forgot your diamond ! When your boyfriend begs you not to leave, you tell him he broke his promise. Period.

    Post # 16
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    14183 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Have you talked to him about it?

    You can’t un-move in, but you can certainly have a talk about it.

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