(Closed) Would You Be Willing to Move/Live Internationally?

posted 10 years ago in Home
  • poll: If given the opportunity ... would you be willing to relocate and live internationally with your SO?

    Yes - I'd move anywhere in the world and never look back.

    No - I wouldn't be willing to live internationally away from my family and friends.

    Yes - My SO is not from the same country I am and I plan to relocate to be with him.

    Yes - But only for a short period of time with a known end date.

    Other - explain below

  • Post # 77
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    Helper bee

    Yep! We met in Philadelphia and moved to London nearly two years ago so Fiance could go to school and I was able to transfer with work. He’s now gotten funding to finish his PhD here, so we’re here for another three years. 

    I miss everyone at home a lot. The homesickness comes in waves at unexpected times. When we first discussed moving, we committed to a year (the length of his program) and said we’d reassess at that point. I fully plan on going home and needed an end date to feel comfortable with moving, but it’s been an amazing experience. We have great friends here and have travelled more in the past 20 months than in my entire life. 

    Skype and email and such make you feel really connected with family and friends back home. And I like to think that we’ll have these amazing memories to look back on when we’re settled with kids in the future. 

    Post # 78
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’m doing it in a week! I’m terrified though. 

    Post # 79
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    Helper bee

    There are definitely scary aspects of it, but you’ll be okay! Laugh at the mishaps (although sometimes a good cry may be in order to make you feel better!), take things one step at a time, and just enjoy the adventure with your partner. You get to be a team through the whole thing, and it will make your appreciation of each other so much deeper.

    Post # 80
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Depending where it is yes I would do it.

    My partner had a chance to move to Mongolia but that is one of the places I couldnt do. Id prefer to hold out for the england posibility in a year 😀

    Post # 81
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Heck yes, I would move internationally! DH & I just went on our honeymoon, two weeks in Europe: the Cotswolds, London, Paris & Munich, and I’ve been working on him for probably a good 8 months or so to consider moving out of country for a while. It doesn’t HAVE to be permanent, but if we liked it, I don’t see why we couldn’t stay.

    Post # 82
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    My husband won’t move unless they give me a good job or double his pay, so I probably won’t have to worry about it.  🙂  He’s Taiwanese and we’ve talked about moving.  I don’t want to go to China, and neither does he.  We’d go quicker if we had kids so they could experience it, too. 

    Just as a general – yeah, I would.  That’s what I signed up for. 

    Post # 83
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Yep! I moved from Canada to the US for my husband. He’s also military so who knows where we’ll end up. I would absolutely move internationally for him.

    Post # 84
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I have lived in Africa (Peace Corps). I loved being there temporary but I could not have seen myself happy there permanently (I was dating someone there who could not move so I did think about it.) There were a lot of racial issues and women were treated like second-class citizens. I would not have been comfortable having daughters there–violence against women, staggering HIV rates and high rates of teen pregnancy are all big problems. Plus, with a 20-hr plane ride to get back to the US, I would’ve only been able to go home every few years.

    Ironically, I’m now dating a Moroccan. I’d live in Morocco but I wouldn’t settle long-term there. Again, I wouldn’t want to raise daughters there. Morocco’s quite progressive for an Islamic country, but it still has a way to go. I would also worry about isolation since so few people speak English.

    We’ve talked about him moving to the US and us both moving to Europe as middle ground. I could see myself raising a family in Europe. Most people, at least in urban areas have good English skills, it’s common to get lots of vacation time ao I’d be able to visit home frequently, and there are certain lifestyle aspects about Europe that I like more than the US. We shall see what is the fate of the EU though.

    Post # 85
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I totally would. It’s always been a huge dream of mine to live somewhere other than the U.S.

    Post # 86
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    DH and I really want to teach abroad. So much so that it’s our first choice. We’re open-minded about where we would be willing to go, and we’d love to get to go to a few different countries. We would love to make it a long term career path. We don’t really have any strong ties here, and we’d love to go explore and see/experience new things. 

    Post # 87
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I have a friend who’s husband works in oil and they moved to the Middle East two years ago. She found adapting from a Christian society to a strict Muslim one very difficult. She came home for a couple of weeks recently and said how strange it felt being allowed to go out without a male escort and wear whatever she liked. I would find that change in freedoms very difficult to deal with. 

    I went on a gap year to New Zealand from the UK (some 11,000 miles) met my SO and now live their with our 7 month old baby. We’re currently visiting my family in the UK, we’ve been here for 6 weeks and have 2 left and I have a bit of a breakdown every time I think about leaving my family. It has been very hard adapting, especially while I was pregnant and with a new baby, I only have a couple of good friends from birthing classes and that’s it and going through that kind of life experience without any close support from people I am very close with was incredibly hard. 

    Post # 88
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    Bumble bee

    My SO and I are planning on moving the Central Europe in 2015, possibly late 2013/early 2014 depending on where I end up finishing my bachelors. It’s always been my dream to leave the U.S. (I never felt quite “right” here and would rather live somewhere that has social and political aspects that I prefer).

    Post # 89
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    You betcha. The US is rapidly turning into a police state, I would surely leave if I could.

    Post # 90
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

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    @Mrs.KMM:  Studying abroad for a few months is substantially different from living somehwere for a few years, though you’d be lucky to have a built-in circle of people in the same situation!

    I studied in France for a semester, then spent a couple years post college living and working there. With study abroad you’re with a group of people your age in the same situation (likely partying it up/ traveling/ having fun most of the time Wink). Living day-to-day is different, and comes with its own strange sense of isolation. I LOVED my time there, and would love to go back, but you have to steel yourself for feeling a bit outside of things at times. I’m not the sentimental, homesick type at all, but certain things can be a bit trickier when you’re living in a different culture. I’m fluent in French, but having to make a new circle of friends is SO MUCH HARDER than you’d think, and most of the cool things you’re gaping at when you first arrive can become humdrum after awhile.

    Fiance and I have talked about possibly moving to Europe (he’s an EU citizen, so we wouldn’t need any visas or anything, which makes it so much easier!), but I also have a great job right now, so it’d have to be a pretty great offer. A lot of his industry is based in Europe, so we’re definitely keeping the possibility on the table. I wouldn’t live somewhere where I’d need security of any sort.

    A lot of people have mentioned cheaper cost of living- definitely not true in Europe or Oz!

    Post # 91
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    nineteen87 How optimistic are you of both being able to find a job, given the state of the EU? Do you already have contacts over there or language skills? I’m not trying to be discouraging, I’m just curious because I’m contemplating that path myself and it seems overwhelming given the state of the world economy.

    On another note, has anyone here done a Masters program at a European university?

    maladroite How did you find work over there?

    MsPoodles Did you know that Peace Corps takes married couples? I served with several couples and I like to let people know that because so many people give up that dream when they get into a serious relationship.

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