Post # 1
We are having the wedding in FI’s hometown, which is a plane ride away from where we live. I have found an awesome winery to have the ceremony and reception at, and have been communicating with the event coordinator there, but have never seen the place in person. I have seen tons of professional wedding pics online from other couples, and Future Sister-In-Law and Future Brother-In-Law have both been there and say it would be a great place. To avoid the cost of 2 plane tickets and time just to go out there, should I book it based on family opinion, responsiveness of the reception venue which has been good, and the pro pics I have seen?
P.S. I am also the kind of person that buys her dress online without ever seeing it in person or trying it on, and that worked out great! 😉
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
My Darling Husband and I did! We were living in NYC, but getting married in California. My parents scouted locations, took pictures, and reported back to us. We chose the one that sounded/looked best for us, and we booked it without having seen it! It all worked out in the end – we absolutely loved our venue!
Post # 4
Booking a venue without seeing it in person is really scary sounding but could be wonderful. Since your Future Brother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law say it’s great, I’d go for it. Having his family endorsing it, I’d say it’s a safe bet.
We came close to booking our venue sight unseen, but a bit of luck has given us a chance to see in person before we sign for it. However, I love the venue enough I’d take the chance and sign even without seeing it.
Trust his family and take the plunge!
Post # 5
I’m 90% sure I’m going for it, glad to hear of other’s experiences!
Post # 6
We also did the same and it worked out just fine!
Post # 7
I say go for it. If you’ve had other people you trust check it out, it should be absolutely fine.
Post # 8
Im sure its lovely, its a winery!
And since you are comfortable buying stuff online with no qualms then im sure you wont have a major issue with your venue especially since you have seen pics and people you trust have been there.
Just do your research and ask good questions so that there are no hidden surprises you did not think of or expect about your venue.
Me personally, I would never be able to do this. Im a bit of a control freak and I would just have to see it first hand. Just sayin…
Post # 9
I voted no but I don’t think you are insane. I say if your inlaws to checked it out and take video or pictures for you, it should be ok. I don’t trust pictures posted by the venue. There was this amazing venue I was set on. It was stunning. A beautfiul lake, big nice lawn garden space for outdoor ceremonies. A big nice patio, the outside of the building was great. I looked though all the pictures from various weddings.
Then I go outside great, patio, exterior of building awesome. I walk inside front hall really nice, we go in the ballroom and it looks like the late 80s/90s vomitted in there lol. I went back looked at the photos again and that’s when I noticed that they picked all pictures with dark lightening and angles which didn’t showcase the room.
Post # 10
Do you have any family members that live close by that could go and visit and take their own pictures instead of the perfect ones from the venues website? Also, have you tried a Google image search for the venue to see photos of other weddings that have taken place there? I did that for my venue before I booked it even though I saw it in person. I wanted to see what other weddings had looked like there. I was able to find at least 10 from different photographer’s blogs.
Post # 11
Nope. I put a deposit down on a place based on pictures/reviews. My mom even went over and looked and said it was great. Darling Husband and I finally got to go see it and it was a no-go. We ended up losing a hefty deposit. (I voted no but I do want to say I don’t think you’re insane, lol)
Post # 12
We just booked our reception venue but we couldnt see it because the room is being rented out everyday till June!!! And we didn’t have that kind of time to wait around to see it. It looked nice from the pics. I mean really, its just a hotel room space. But we are going to see it as soon as we can!
Post # 13
I wouldn’t presonally (just my personality), but a friend/coworker did exactly what you described and went out to see it on a scheduled trip home after putting the deposit down and loved the place. As long as your research satisfies you I think go for it!
Post # 14
The pics I found were from independent photographers on their own websites, not the venue 🙂 I was able to pull those up from Google!
Post # 15
I’m planning my wedding in Florida all the way from AZ and I am not making a trip to FL before the wedding. So everything I’m booking is based on reviews and info I can find online. It can be nerve-wracking but sometimes you just have to make the decision you think works best for you, book it and move on to the next thing that has to be done for the wedding. Good luck!
Post # 16
I say this because venues wear down over time. I would ask at the very least a family member to go and do a walk-through with them and have them take specific photos.
I know some of the venues that used to be really great in my area became very run-down and things like gross bathrooms, rooms that smelt continuously like smoke and lack of flexibility occured. I would see if you could arrange a phone appointment with the venue to ask all your questions, then send a family member with a camera and have them check out the current condition.
My top choice venue got completely voted out once I saw it in person despite seeing numerous pictures of other couples weddings and having a great site with 360 degree room views.