Post # 1
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Bee Keeper
Question…one of my friends has a one year old and a 7 week old baby. I invited her to my wedding ceremony that I’m having in my hometown (cermony only in hometotwn reception at a destination) and told her I would be fine if she wasnt able to make it because of the kids. She then lets me know she was planning on coming alone to the ceremony (without her fiance who will be home with the 1 year old) and bringing her 7 week old baby. I let her know that the ceremony will be long and there wont really be any other kids there (besides older children). She came to my shower the past weekend and brought the baby and she just cried the whole time. I really dont want a crying baby during my wedding ceremony and the baby is very young. I’m getting married in a mosque so it is somewhat serious. I told her I would NOT be upset at all if she was not able to attend. Also for the record she is not breast feeding
Post # 3
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Worker bee
I think it’s rude to tell her ONLY she can’t bring her child if you are letting other people bring kids. I think the acceptable rule is either to say “no kids” or to allow kids. But picking and chosing who can bring kids is rude, In My Humble Opinion.
I personally would not enjoy a wedding if my baby was that little but on the other hand, I wouldn’t want to miss the wedding of a good friend. Since she’s going without her fiance, is he just not able to go? That would REALLY suck for her to be stuck being the solo parent in that situation, I’m sure she’s sressed out about it enough and doesn’t really need a friend making her feel worse for it. She’s already in a tough spot if she’s being force to chose between not going at all or going but being stuck taking care of two babies.
Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
I’m sorry, but I don’t think a 7 week old or a 1 year old belong at a wedding.
Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
i would never bring a baby to a wedding. they are too unpredictable. i would skip the wedding or find a sitter.
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
I would not a bring a baby that young around so many people, no.
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
That’s a pretty tiny baby and I’m wondering if she can’t be away from it for extended periods of time because it’s nursing. Does the mosque have a crying room or space she can go if the baby is fussy? If so, I would say it’s ok that she brings the baby and just let her know that there is a space she can retreat to should the baby start fussing.
Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
@mypinkshoes: This. Why can she not leave the baby with her fiance?
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
I wouldn’t because 7 weeks is soo young and I wouldn’t want to subject my baby to so many germs. You never know if someone at the wedding will be sick and a baby that young hasn’t built up its immune system yet.
Post # 10
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Sugar bee
@sweetchiquita12: I brought my daughter to a wedding around that age and she was just fine. She slept the entire time, until i woke her up to nurse her and she went right back to sleep. It wasn’t an issue for us….a seven week old sleeps most of the time anyway..
Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
@Ivelanded: Her fiance is staying home with her other baby. Would you want a small baby crying during your wedding ceremony?
Post # 13
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Sugar bee
@sweetchiquita12: Telling her she can’t bring her baby simply because it’s a baby is rude. First and foremost, you’re not having an adult only wedding, and the young child will need to be feed and such by mom. Secondly, the ceremony isn’t exactly a private event, most churches are open to the public even for weddings, often the entire congregation is encouraged to attend the ceremony of one of their own. Just request that if the child starts crying she move to the back room set aside for this very thing.
Post # 15
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Honey bee
If she is breastfeeding it can be pretty tough to be away for that long, because baby will get hungry and need to eat, she’ll have to pump, etc. Since she has no issue with leaving the one year old at home, I’d assume that she has a reason for wanting to bring the 7 week old, and I’d assume breastfeeding is that reason. It’s not rude to tell her you’re not having babies there, as long as you udnerstand and aren’t offended if that means she can’t come.
Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
@RunsWithBears: Nope no crying room. She also brought the baby to my shower this past weekend and it spent most of the time crying and fussing
