(Closed) Would you bring a newborn to a funeral?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Honey bee

I probably wouldn’t bring a newborn.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m so sorry. 🙁

I will not because it’s a chinese superstition.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

no

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2001

I try to keep my newborns away from the general public for the first few weeks, but I think it would be fine in this situation.  I have noticed most people try not to touch baby’s hands and face, and this will help with germs.  I would also sit in the back in case baby started to fuss.  I’m sorry for your loss.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wouldn’t have taken my first when he was a newborn, because I was a typical first time Mom.

I would have with my second because I had learned that babies aren’t as fragile as we initially think. They do come with some immunity they have gained from Mom. I would not pass her around from person to person, but I would attend, as you said, to pay respects.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think 11 days is a bit early to attend a gathering with many people.  Their still so fragile at that age. Most of my friends who had babies didnt take them to any social places until they were atleast 2 months old because so many people want to play with them and touch their faces

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

So sorry for your family’s loss. 

Are you having a family get together after the funeral? I’m trying to think of funerals I’ve been to and almost all of them had a gathering with the family afterwards with food, etc. And for those get togethers there have been children and it was so good to see all the little ones, they do put a smile on your face. I don’t think I’ve ever seen a baby/child at the actual funeral service though. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I wouldn’t because it is a taboo in most West African cultures to do so.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I can understand the sentiment from the family. If you decide to go then go armed with hand sanitizer and lots of it.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@eurekaanchovies:

In Chinese traditions pregnant woman are not allowed to go to funerals because it is believed the evil spirits will take the baby away. I think in the same respect it’s not so good to have an infant around the “evil spirits” that surround death.

I don’t know how superstitious your husband’s family is? I remember you saying in the chinese custom thread they did not ask you to follow many traditions while pregnant. But with their grandchild it might be different? What does your husband think?

Many in my generation are not terribly superstitious but this is one that most of us do follow.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I wouldn’t just because of the amount of people there touching and breathing all over the baby.  Also at that age it’s not like you have a good routine down and it could just be a really big pain.  I’d stay home for this one.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

As long as the baby does not inturrupt the service I wouldn’t see it as being a problem, and seeing a new baby generally helps cheer people up. I am not superstitious in anyway though.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

No.  Funeral services are extremely emotional.  Personally I would have Darling Husband stay home w/ our child if it was my family and vice versa if the loved on was his. 

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