Post # 1
I was chatting with one of my bridesmaids about our guest list and she asked if were inviting single people with plus ones (anyone in a relationship will have one). She didn’t when she got married, with only a couple of exceptions.
Fiance feels strongly that we should invite everyone with a plus one–I would lean towards not, but don’t have strong feelings. If I were invited to a wedding with a plus one and was single, I probably wouldn’t bring anyone anyhow (as long as I knew others) but she pointed out plenty of our friends totally would.
Would you bring someone random just because you could?
Post # 3
I would honestly limit plus ones to married, engage, living together, or if your friends with their signfancant other. If they don’t fit this group then ppl don’t need to be extended a plus one. The only exception in my book to extend random plus ones would be for family.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@MaryRachel: If you can afford it, do it. It’s nice and the singles that want to bring plus 1’s will appreciate it whether they bring an SO or friend along with them. If it’s not in the budget, then draw the line somewhere specific and stick to it.
Post # 5
We allowed a plus one for ALL of our guests. I was Maid/Matron of Honor in a wedding last year and I had to go alone. My husband was deployed at the time. It was awful.
Post # 6
It depends on who the wedding is for.
Before I was dating Fiance and was single, I was invited to a work wedding without a +1, and I was fine with it because it was just work people and whoever I brought would not have known anyone.
If it was a Destination Wedding, I definitely would allow for +1s. That is a very heated topic on this forum.
My and FI’s family is really big on inviting +1s even if they don’t have a serious significant other, but that’s just us.
Post # 7
The only person who is allowed a plus one is my Maid/Matron of Honor because she doesn’t know anyone but me and my Fiance. I think that’s the only reasonable explaination for having a plus one.
Post # 8
I allowed everybody I invited to bring a plus one. I don’t care if they’re dating or just met or some hobo off the street.
If I was single and offered a plus one, I’d bring someone I knew. Maybe not a boyfriend, maybe just a friend (Male or female.)
Post # 9
@MaryRachel: No. If I knew the people I would be seated with, I would not bring a plus one. I personally don’t want random people at my wedding either.
Post # 10
Depends on who the rest of the guests were. I went alone to one friend’s wedding when my fiancé couldn’t make it. And it was fun, because I was still with my friends. But if I didn’t know many people or thought I might feel lonely then I would try to bring a friend, sister, etc.
Post # 11
@MaryRachel: I’m giving all singles a +1. I know how horrid it can be to go stag if you don’t know anyone aside from the B&G.
Post # 12
I think of you can afford it, it’s nice to do.
If I wasn’t in a relationship and I was invited with a +1 it would really depend on the situation. If I had to travel or didn’t know anyone I would probably bring someone. If it was local and/or I knew tons is people, I would just go alone.
Post # 13
I’m giving everyone a plus one and letting them use their judgement. Personally if I was single I would only bring someone if I wouldn’t know anyone many people at the wedding. Otherwise I would prefer to enjoy catching up with those people I knew.
Post # 14
I’ve been to weddings alone and with dates. Attending a wedding with a date is always better even if you’re part of the bridal party. Everyone is paired up and you’re left all alone 🙁
Post # 15
I would only if I didn’t know anyone else there.
We gave a bunch of our single friends +1s and most didn’t choose to bring anyone, largely because they had plenty of other friends at the wedding anyway.
Post # 16
I would bring someone only if I wouldn’t know anyone at all. I’ve gone to weddings before and only known one friend and then ended up hanging out with other people. If there is an open bar, I find that everyone gets a lot friendlier!
For our wedding, we are giving +1s to serious relationships and then to people who won’t know anyone else – we’re going to tell them they can bring a friend if they don’t have a date and don’t feel comfortable making new friends.