Post # 1
So ive been posting like a fiend about THE ring….however it is an etsy ring…and though ive fallen in LOVE with it….i am very apprehensive….I have found maybe 40 reviews on ANYTHING this guy has sold….I emailed him and he has a decent return policy….its only 7 days…but he has a 1 year warranty and free sizing…he will not take a IRL pic of the ring…and i can only find ONE anywhere…but i think a troll posted it….so here is my delimma…i can not find how to contact anyone who has bought from this designer….
So here is my delimma…the wedding set will cost $1,950 which is nothing to sneeze at….for us anyways….even though to some of my friends its “cheap for a forever ring”….its a nerve wraking proccess…for me to say ok lets buy this….SO and I are very seriously debating on wether to go for it or not….so what do you ladies think….would you ever go for it….there is no way we could get it custom made by a local jewler for this price….it would be well over double from the 2 we have talked to….
Post # 3
You could try looking at his sold items on etsy and contacting the people he sold to. Personally I wouldn’t buy it without an irl picture, if he’s made it before he should be able to provide a photograph. A computer generated image just doesn’t tell anything about quality or workmanship.
Post # 4
what is his reason for not showing you a real life image of it to you? Sounds shady to me.
Post # 5
Is it a 7 day return policy from when he ships it, or from when you receive it? I’ve been bitten with that before.
Why won’t he take a picture of it? Is he just scared that it won’t photograph well? You can try to appeal to him again on the grounds that it’s a lot of money and a picture would put your mind at ease.
Ultimately, though, if the return policy really is “shipped back within 7 days of receiving it,” and not, “it needs to be back in his hand 7 days after he shipped it to you,” and you really want to, I’d take the risk. If he refuses to give you a picture first, he only has himself to blame, and you can leave an honest review stating that he refuses to give a picture first and you would’ve been saved a lot of trouble if he had.
ETA: I just realized how negative this sounds, I’m only thinking of “the worst that can happen.” The best that can happen is that it’s a wonderful set that you can’t get anywhere else for that price! I’d also get it appraised by a local jeweler when it arrives, just to check it out.
Post # 6
We got my ring from Brilliant Earth. They have a great return policy, and actually, we had to return an antique ring from them because it was too big and they couldn’t resize it to the right size because of the nature of the ring. We got a new ring from them and I love it.
That being said, be very careful with someone who doesn’t have that many reviews. I would say, if it has a gemstone in it, take it to be appraised right away so that you can send it back immediately if there is something fishy. Also, be sure to use PayPal to pay for the rings. They are really good about handling disputes.
Post # 7
i definitely wouldn’t buy it, it sounds very shady to me, he shouldn’t refuse to send you a real picture of the ring! can you get your local jeweler to copy the design from the photos he has posted?
Post # 8
I dont understand why he wouldnt show you real photos. Does he not want the sale? I wouldnt buy it. What if you dont like it? How long will he take to refund you? Go to a jeweler explain what you like and your budget and see if they will work with you.
Post # 9
I’m having my ring set custom designed so right now, all I have are CAD renderings. Perhaps he is waiting to make this one piece just for you? Just try to stay positive, if it is something that you want, go for it. Just make sure that his return policy is rock solid.
Post # 10
@Westwood: i can not find how to email anyone who has bought from him, it doesnt say who bought it…. 🙁
@MrsWBS: He just keeps telling me that he doesnt have any pictures of the rings…but hes supposedly sold two of it before…im going to try and appeal to him again today and see if he will humor me….
@HappierKate: the policy is for 7 days after i recieve it….but the catch is SO wants to order it and then hide it from me until he proposes….hes been really lenient with me helping pick the ring and that is his biggest request in the deal….so im humoring him….and what makes me nervous is hes a farmer who works ALL the time, so he never has time to go to the jewlers….so were super concerened on that end…
Post # 11
Maybe he doesn’t have the ring made yet? It is just in a drawing state for now? And once he gets a sale… he can buy the material to create it?
Post # 12
@kansas_nurse: We’re doing something similar, except with Blue Nile… but they’ve very reputable and have a good return policy. I definitely get the whole sight unseen thing being scary!
I know Etsy is fairly reputable, but not sure if I’d spend any money on there that I couldn’t afford to lose. What happens if he disappears etc.? I could just be paranoid, but I think you should go with your gut. Is there a good reason why he won’t take a photo of the ring?
Post # 13
@kansas_nurse: If you’re not going to be able to see it immediately and appraise it so that you can return it in time, I wouldn’t do it. Ask him for a 30 day return policy if he can’t do a picture, and if he can’t do that for you, I think I’d walk away.
Post # 14
I didn’t have a ring custom made but I did buy a setting once sight unseen. I did see real life photos of it, but it’s not the same as seeing it in person. Once I got it, I realized that I wasn’t crazy about how it looked on me. I was unable to return it, so I personally would not buy anything I could not see in person and try on again.
Post # 15
Thank you everyone…we are talking to a 3rd jewler today to see his pricing…and see what we can find out…my other issue is….he is willing to add a 1 carat moissanite instead of the 1 carat white sapphire that it normally set in the ring…but for the 1 carat moissanite it is only $150….and am waiting to hear the certifications on the stone…and what all certificates are available and if he will take an IRL pic for me with out my purchase or refer me to a place where i can find one…
Post # 16
@kansas_nurse: $150 sounds too cheap for a moissanite of that size. I’d be wary of that price. And I wouldn’t go through with the etsy jeweler, as that vendor has no pictures. Plus, that vendor has spammed on weddingbee before, which makes me more suspect.
As a comparison, both BrilliantEarth and James Allen have CAD images on their site, but also have attached real life photographs of their rings. As do quite a few etsy vendors. At least in that case you know they’ve made the ring before, and the finished product holds up well next to the CAD rendering.