Post # 1
I love the ball gown silhouette and had decided to go with that style. I was previously considering the mermaid style but just didn’t find myself as excited shopping for it.
Problem is, I have asked my fiance what shape he likes and he’s replied that he hates puffy dresses, i.e. the ball gown! He wouldn’t have said anything if I hadn’t asked, but now that I know, should I still go ahead with the ball gown?
I know it’s MY dress but I want him to like it too. I mentioned this to a shop lady and she said “well he hasn’t seen you in it!”, but I’m not so sure.
So would you or have you gone for a shape/style that you loved but he didn’t??
Post # 2
- Wedding: January 2017 - Maui, Hawaii
Personally, I would have gone with whatever style I liked, even though my husband did say he didnt like the big poofy dresses. I ended up with a trumpet style dress with poof on the bottom, which was my preferred style anyway. I feel like most men say “no poofy dresses” but a flattering dress is a flattering dress and if it looks great on you they will love you in it, too. I feel like they dislike them based on worries about stepping on it, or how to dance with you in it, or they just think they will want to see your figure more in a slim fit dress.
Post # 3
I would absolutely get a dress knowing that Fiance *thinks* he wouldn’t like the style. He’s a bloke who lives in shirts and jeans and who has never and will never even try on a dress. Sorry guys…. this is the one bit of wedding that IS ALL ABOUT US! Mwhahahahaha.
I asked him ONCE if he had any opinion on what sort of dress he would like to see me in and his exact answer was “BOOBS!” ‘Nuff said.
Post # 4
If I knew there was a style he hated then I wouldn’t go for it. Simples. I wouldn’t want my Fiance to look at me and think “ugh – what is she wearing” I would want my Fiance to look at me and think I was the most beautiful thing he had ever seen. And, yes I know the dress isn’t the be all and end all of that – but for me, it wouldn’t be worth it. I would strive to find something that we would both love. Just think – how would you feel if you saw your Fiance on your big day and he was wearing something hideous that you hated?!
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2016 - Gorse Hill, Surrey, UK
My husband told me if it had a train he was cutting it off. I didnt listen 🙂
Post # 6
Just think – how would you feel if you saw your Fiance on your big day and he was wearing something hideous that you hated?!
To be fair, I wouldn’t be happy if I turned up at my own wedding and my groom was wearing a gown that I didn’t like 🙁
Post # 7
Yep because I have to wear it.
Post # 8
Yea I agree with other bees. A flatering dress is a flatering dress. Im sure he “thinks” he doesn’t like it, but Im sure he will think you are an absolute stunner on your day! I feel you though.
I love very conservative dresses and often wear high neck line dresses. My Fiance did ask me not to wear a high neck dress before I went shopping lol. I tried a few on which I loved. My final two dress choices were a high neckline or a strapless. I went with the strapless because I knew he would like it more. But I still LOVE my dress.
Post # 9
I know! How rude of that man to wear a prettier dress than mine! We could have at least coordinated!
If Fi picks a power blue, 1970s, wide lapel, ruffle tux and he loves it…well… I would be laughing my a$$ off as I approached him but it’s not the end of the world.
Like a PP said, a flattering dress is a pretty dress. And if you want a poof, then honey, you get you a poof!!
Post # 10
- Wedding: December 2017 - Lake Louise Canada
I want my husband to be blown away at that “first look” and it will take some doing because we go to enough formal events that I already own 10 full length gowns. So I took his opinions into consideration when shopping. As many PPs have said, few straight men have even the slightest idea about dress style, unless he’s seen you in a poofy dress, he doesnt know what to expect. My Fiance specifically stated he didnt want a big dress between us, because he’s a very cuddly person and will want to be close to me especially while dancing. I agree with him and bought a very fitted dress for that reason.
Post # 11
I’m not so sure they even KNOW what they like…but…I did factor in my husband’s thoughts on wedding dresses. He let me know what he liked/hated and I went from there. Luckily his taste was very much in line with mine…
Post # 12
My fiance doesnt like strapless, so I’m staying away from that neckline. If I got a dress that I knew wasn’t the style he liked, I would feel self conscious the entire wedding day. That doesnt sound fun to me.
Post # 13
I’d get whatever style I liked. I don’t buy my everyday clothes based on what Fiance likes, so why would I do that with my dream gown?
I’m sure he’d love seeing you happy and confident in whatever you choose.
Post # 14
I think you can find middle ground. I would have loved a super poofy ballgown princess dress. My husband would have thought I looked like a cupcake and wouldn’t have really liked it. I wanted him to think I was beautiful on my wedding day, so I found a dress I knew he would like. I liked it more, knowing how much he would like it. If I had purchased a princess dress, I wouldn’t have loved it as much (even if i liked how it looked) because I would have known my husband thought I looked silly.
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2018 - Aspen, Colorado
My fiance said the same thing. Then he saw me in a ball gown and absolutely loved it! I didn’t end up picking that dress (going with a fit and flare), but I think guys have this idea of what a “poofy dress” is and it’s not at all what any of us would wear anyways. We wouldn’t wear a dress on our wedding day that looks ugly, you know? So I’d say get what makes YOU feel beautiful, there’s no way he wouldn’t agree when seeing you walk down the aisle.