Post # 1
My SO and I are certain of our future together. I’m 29 He’s 38.
We’ve talked about engagement, marriage, children, life goals. We are serious about each other.
I really like the Disney collection – Belle.
I don’t dont whether the styles change yearly and whether I should buy ‘her’ now or wait?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t. There are so many people on here with serious dress regret from buying early and end up with multiple dresses. You dont even know when your wedding will be, where, what time of year, which all affect the type of dress you’re likely to get. Plus, it seems like it would be bad luck or something to buy a dress before the engagement but I probably just made that up. I would wait until you have made some wedding plans. Plus it’s more fun to go shopping when you’ve already started planning! It helps you envision the day better. Just my two cents 🙂
Post # 4
If you still love it when you’re engaged and its discontinued you can probably buy it used for a huge discount. More likely you will fall in love with something else when you try dresses on.
This might be a little harsh, but just because you are “serious” about engagement does not mean you will get engaged soon. Fiance and I were ready to be engaged for two years before he actually proposed. I’m glad I didn’t look at dresses until I had the ring because tastes and styles change. I wouldn’t want to have to wear the dress I loved four years before my wedding (2 year engagement) just because its the one I already owned.
Post # 5
@Soon2BD-CBee: I wouldn’t do anything until you have the ring on your finger.
Post # 6
- Wedding: December 2010 - Savannah, GA
Not only do styles change, but so do our tastes in dresses. Later on when you get engaged, you might not like Belle as well as you do now, and then you’ll regret having spent the money on her. However, if you wait, it’s almost certain that you will find another dress that you like just as well if not better. Keep a picture of Disney’s Belle dress, and then take the picture with you later when you go shopping for dresses.
Post # 7
- Wedding: December 2010 - Savannah, GA
My thoughts exactly! I wouldn’t tempt fate by buying a dress before I was engaged!
Post # 8
I wouldn’t buy one yet. Look at all the threads on dress regret – and those ladies are probably a lot closer to their wedding date than us waiting girls. Besides, if you still love it and you don’t get engaged for a while you might be able to get it for a great discount!
Post # 9
No, but look at dresses. Because even if you are 100% sure you will be getting engaged:
1. You may find the dress you like cheaper, later.
2. You can’t guarantee your body will be the same in X number of years later when you have your wedding.
3 (And In My Humble Opinion, most importantly) Buying your dress early gives you a very, very long time to look at other dresses that you like more (as fashion or your own tastes change, as you simply see alternatives, etc.).
Post # 10
I wouldn’t buy it. You may end up getting married a few years down the road and find something you like better.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t only because it takes away the fun when you actually are engaged.
Post # 12
I agree with everyone above, but I’ve got one more reason to add. Don’t you want to have that amazing dress buying experience with your friends and family? If you buy it now you’ll probably have to keep it a secret and that would be tough! Wait until you’re engaged so you can shout it from the rooftops!
Post # 13
I wouldn’t for the variety of reasons alrealdy listed.
Post # 14
Thanks for you input not harsh at all. I didn’t say we were serious about just engagement, I said we are serious about each other. I am aware anything can happen in life, tastes can change. Just another perspective though a friend of mine bought her dress before even meeting her husband, she just knew she would get married one day. I know my SO is going to ask me to marry him next year. but, yes I don’t have a wedding date so thanks for your advice. I’ll wait.
Post # 15
Thanks for all your advice. I will keep Belle in my head though. It’s just so pretty and like nothing I’ve seen I normally only wear short dresses.
I really do thank you all for your honest comments.
Post # 16
You have EXCELLENT taste in dresses! The belle dress from Alfred Angelo is my dream dress. My SO and I joke around a lot that he had better pop the question soon so I can have my dress before it disappears! But I have to agree with the masses, don’t buy the dress until you are officially engaged. By buying a dress while waiting you would be taking away from the things you are supposed to enjoy about being engaged! I know its hard to wait (I know the two closest stores to me that carry that dress and believe me like the day after I get engaged you can be certain I’ll be there trying it on), but until then we have to just be patient.