(Closed) Would you call it being engaged?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
9128 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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soon2bmrscole:  If you have booked the venue and have a date, you are engaged then. You just don’t have a ring.

Post # 18
3242 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Just ask him outright, “So baby, we are makig all these plans, is it safe to call you my fiance publicly now?” Don’t spend weeks agonising, just ASK the man!!

Post # 20
2176 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

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soon2bmrscole:  nice!!!!!  Where did you decide to hold your ceremony?  We are locked and loaded at chapel of the flowers. 

Post # 21
2076 posts
Buzzing bee

If you have booked a venue (meaning you have a date), have BMs and GMs then yeah I consider you two engaged.  Being engaged means that you two have decided to get married.  And since you are in the midst of wedding planning then that leads me to believe that you have decided to get married.  A ring and a formal proposal is not a requirement.

Post # 22
303 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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soon2bmrscole:  I’d say you are engaged you’ve just done a few things in a different order. It sounds like you will be getting a ring & proposal which is always nice! I’m guessing when you get your ring that’s when you’ll be using the fiance labels more & there won’t be confusion. Do you know what the ring looks like?!

Post # 23
14 posts

Engaged is a promise to marry. If you are making plans and have picked out your wedding venue, I would say you are engaged. 

Post # 24
2000 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

What do you consider yourself? You sound engages. I was engaged before I got my ring

Post # 25
2866 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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soon2bmrscole:  If you booked the venue and have a date, you are engaged. Sometimes the question is not asked because the answer is assumed.

Post # 26
240 posts
Helper bee

You sound engaged to me 🙂 To me, engaged means two people 100% in agreement that marriage will happen soon, not maybe or someday but yes we will get married in the near future. I like to say me and SO are “technically” engaged as he will be purchasing the ring and proposing in the next few months, but to family and friends we are still boyfriend and girlfriend, just for being official and tradition.

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Post # 27
788 posts
Busy bee

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soon2bmrscole:  I would just ask him. Maybe he is thinking that with all the talking you two are engaged and he just missed out on asking. Obviously he wants to be with you and he wants to marry you. He’s either going to say, yes he thinks you two are engaged or he’s going to say, we’re planning but I wouldn’t consider us engaged because I want to ask you!

Good luck! 🙂

Post # 28
7502 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

You’re engaged. Congrats!

Post # 29
92 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I was in a similar boat. DH and I had our elopement date picked out, had both requested the day off from work, picked out our rings, booked our weekend getaway…but he hadn’t actually asked me yet. My ring came in a week before our wedding date and I was getting REALLY anxious to actually have an engagement (weird, I know, given our plans to elope).

I didn’t call him my fiance until I had the ring on my finger…it just didn’t seem right, even though we’d been talking about it and booking things and were ready to go.

Post # 30
5874 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

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soon2bmrscole:  I would say engaged…but it doesn’t matter what I say!  Talk to your man about it and mutually decide if you are engaged now since you’ve started planning the wedding, or if you’ll call yourselves engaged once you’ve got a ring.  

There is no right or wrong on this one, IMO.  You just have to be on the same page.

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