Post # 62
@june42011—I didn’t mean “why does it even matter” in a rude way, more of a “I would not have even paid her any attention” way. I do not get the flaunting of a ring thing that girls do. I actually get embarrassed when people ask to see my ring.
Also, doesn’t it make you wonder what she is missing in her life to even need to put your ring down like that? I would feel more sorry for her than angry with her. She is overcompensating…the ring has nothing to do with the man or marriage in my opinion.
Hope that made sense 🙂
Post # 63
Wow. I don’t believe that a ring (or wedding for that matter) is better than anyone else’s. It’s simply a matter of personal style & tastes. I am amazed that she would ever insult your ring in the first place. How incredibly rude! It would have been extremely difficult for me not say or do something catty in response. But I am very glad that your grandmother had the wisdom to put your cousin in her place. Overall, you handled yourself much better than I might have and I’m glad that you got a little “payback”.
Post # 64
No way. Be glad you’re the bigger person. No need to insult her, especially since she insulted you somewhat indirectly.
Post # 65
Yay for Grandma and the bee. My grandma has no censor at all, she says exactly what is on her mind always. I could see her doing the same thing. And woo bee for proving us gals a place to vent these issues. Who else could you have this conversation with other then a bunch of wedding loving bees :).
Post # 66
Ha ha! Love it and grandma is awesome! Sure, I can understand the feeling of wanting the traditional diamond and not having one but to pass it off as a diamond and then be RUDE to you…that is totally uncalled for and pathetic!
I just don’t get why people get so embarrassed about not having a diamond. Who cares? I’ve been wearing a CZ and tell everyone who sees it and says they like it, that it’s a CZ. To me, as long as I have a ring that represents that I am engaged/married, that’s all that matters, and that I like it, of course! 🙂 I’m planning on replacing my ring with a white sapphire solitaire and will proudly tell people it’s not a diamond. And, the more I think about it (and after reading posts on here), I’m not sure if I’ll ever get a diamond (one that I would like…big one b/c I love big rings) since I most likely will never be able to afford it and rather spend money elsewhere, especially since I can’t imagine wearing the same ring for 10, 20, 30 years… (That’s just me though…I know most women don’t ever plan to change their rings). Anyways…back to my point… If people are going to judge someone for not having a diamond/it being too small in their eyes/etc… there is something seriously wrong with them!
Post # 67
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
No, even though she deserved it. Instead I’d call her out on making rude comparisons to make herself feel better.
Post # 68
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I just read what your grandma said… I wouldn’t want to get on her bad side! 😉 Go Granny!
Post # 70
No- don’t bother. I knew a girl who thought hers was real and then tried to pawn it after she divorced and found out it was fake. She flashed me with it plenty when she thought it was real- karma is a you-know-what. She really is tempting fate with her mouth if she knows it’s faux.
Post # 71
I’d have been very tempted to say something to her in the moment just because her absolute rudeness would have pissed me off. But good for you for holding your tongue!
And your update made me really smile! Go Grandma! Way to call her out on her lies and put her in her place!
Post # 72
I don’t get why women are so vengeful after the fact. If she insulted your ring, then you should have said something back or let it go. Did you run to your grandmother and tell her about it or was she there? Everyone is cheering for gma, but wasn’t she equally as rude? *shrugs*
Post # 73
@Ms.Disco: I think that’s why the OP was so annoyed – she was trying to pass it off as something it’s not. If she’d just said “it’s a white sapphire”, nobody would have cared or judged 🙂
Post # 74
@Mr. Tattoo: I didn’t say anything the first time because I didn’t want to be rude and then I did try to let it go but it was brought back up by someone else. Grandma was there for the first comment as well and I didn’t tell anyone but ya’ll on here about being upset about it. As far as grandma being rude at lunch? She’s 89 years old and calls it like she sees it. Plus these comments weren’t made after the fact, it was during, as in immediatly after cousin said her ring was bigger.
Post # 75
Do you love your ring? I know I love mine. It could have been a twist-tie from a bread bag, and I would have loved it the same. The engagement ring is only as genuine as the promise behind it. Doesn’t matter if it’s a pipe-cleaner or if it is a 10-carat diamond from Tiffany’s…
Let it go. It’s not worth getting all worked up over.
Post # 76
I don’t think you need to justify yourself. Even with the comment you made, it seems like you kept a lot of self-restraint. Sure we’d all like to think that we could be so composed in the heat of the moment, but how many times was she going to compare apples to oranges before someone called her out?
My rules of engagement rings:
- You never compare your ring to someone else’s out loud in their presence.
- You never comment that a ring is fake or otherwise “not genuinely what they say”
- You always compliment a ring when someone shows it to you, even if it isn’t your taste
- You never ask if they will change out the stone later (“upgrade”)
- You NEVER ask any of the four Cs
- You NEVER ask how much it cost
Those are just my rules for me. That way I won’t be rude to someone accidentally.