(Closed) Would you care if an acquaintance did this to your husband…..

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you care?
    Yes : (98 votes)
    52 %
    No : (78 votes)
    41 %
    Other : (13 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 32
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    This wasn’t a back crack in an office. This was a straddle on a baseball field, her body on top of his, legs around him, hands on him, under the guise of “I’m just trying to help!”…and the wife isn’t around. Sounds a bit flirty and unnecessary to me. Would she have done that with the wife there? Would he? I doubt it. She took advantage of the situation, and he allowed it. Sorry, not cool in my book. 

    Post # 33
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    Honey bee

    I probably wouldn’t care much, except I’d be worried she would inadvertently make his back worse, since she’s not a professional.

    Post # 35
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    @SoupyCat: Yeah actually a back is a pretty delicate thing, and if you crack someone’s back the wrong way, you can do some injury, so I agree with you.

    But yeah, I don’t think it would bother me. 

    Post # 36
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2008

    Yeah, I’d be irritated by the straddling- but I would fault my husband, not the woman.  If he needs his back cracked he should see a doctor.

    As in other posts like this.. I wonder if he would have let a man straddle him? That may play into my answer a bit.

    Post # 37
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    It was in public, so a bit odd, but nothing that would set off red flags. But he better be the one that told me. If someone else mentioned it to me before Darling Husband (and if he got all squirrelly), then I’d start to feel bad about it.

    Post # 38
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    it was in a public place and had no sexual connotation to it, so no, it wouldn’t bother me in the slightest.

    however, if i was pregnant like “suzie” then there’s no telling how i would react. Hormones and reasonable reactions do not always go hand in hand.

    Post # 39
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I wouldnt be offended. She is just cracking his back.

    Post # 40
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I would not care at all. He would not care at all if I got a back crack. 

    Also: back cracks are awesome.

    Post # 41
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Giving people back cracks isn’t a big deal..  My FH occasionally does that to his female friends by literally picking them up in a big bear hug and crushing them..  Or having them lie down on the ground and he steps on their back.  Nothing meant by it, he is just strong and is able to make things pop.  I guess the only thing that might rub me the wrong way is the stradding him thing and how it was situated.  I would probably be a bit jealous to see a gorgeous girl doing that to FH but know it wouldn’t really mean anything.  If the touching continues or gets worse then I might say something.

    Post # 42
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    1991 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I might feel a little uneasy but ultimately wouldn’t say anything and wouldn’t let it bother me.

    Post # 43
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    7371 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    @lpsk: This made me laugh. If by some chance it  bothered me it would litterally be for a minute then. I’d move on. I’ve seen backs get cracked nuffing remotely sexual about it.

    Post # 44
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    Blushing bee

    I wouldn’t be a happy hen. I’d have a talk with my husband about boundaries with other females and how this kind of physical contact with another woman makes me uncomfortable and that I feel that I should be the only person he shares his body with. He would probably say something like, “Oh, Molly. You’re right! I hadn’t even considered it!” and we would move on.

    A woman should understand boundaries between married men and herself but sometimes those things slip the mind. And since she and I have no relationship or agreement to each other, I couldn’t get on her case about it. However, if we did meet soon after the event I might say, “I heard you had your hands all over my schexy husband… Can’t blame ya… buuuuttt…” and leave it at that.

    Post # 45
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If she was a doctor or chiropracter, no.

    But in this case, I don’t think Jenna is in the wrong, I think Suzy’s husband is.  He should have flat out told this chick NO.  He didn’t…why is the question surrounding the girl?  Because she’s pretty?

    I know for a fact that if a girl even offered to do that for my husband that wasn’t family or a doctor, he would have politely declined.

    Post # 46
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    @deetroitwhat: Agreed.  She may have been trying to flirt, or she may have been really trying to help and not realizing how she’s coming across.  However, he was the one who allowed it.

    But, I also keep thinking… they both obviously knew they were in plain view of LOTS of people who knew his wife.  To me that says they both were oblivious to how it could have been perceived badly.  I honestly would only have been really pissed if it were my hubby and they were back cracking behind the bleachers or something more shady.

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