- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
Hi bees. Yes, another long rant by me!
When I was dating my ex, one of my friends from work, “A”, was always commenting about how lucky I was to have him, how cute he was, etc. I’ve known A for around 8 years; we were student teachers at the same school then both hired on after we graduated. She’s more of a work friend but I have hung out with her on occassion outside of work, however, I do not consider her one of my best friends.
When she used to say these comments about my ex, I used to ask if she was interested in him and she said if we ever broke up he was fair game. When we did break up over a year ago, he started dating another girl literally the very next day, so A was pretty bummed that he wasn’t available. I really didn’t take her seriously.
When I was on my honeymoon a few weeks ago, A texted me that she heard that my ex broke up with his girlfriend, and asked if I minded if she went out with him. I said I have no control over who he or her go out with and she said good, because she asked him out and he said yes.
They went out while I was still on my honeymoon and had a heck of a time getting home with weather related issues, so my first day back at work (school), she ran up to me and was upset that I didn’t ask how her date went.
I should add that she is a very attractive lady but she gets emotionally attached to every guy she dates right away – she’s planning their wedding and picking out kids’ names after a handful of dates. She pushes guys away because she comes on very strongly, and I have told her this over the years. If she doesn’t push the guy away, she will find some weird trait to find an excuse to break up with the guy. Her most recent boyfriend, who was a very nice guy and really, really liked her, she broke up with him because he didn’t recycle. For real.
So anyway, she told me all about their date, going on and on and said they were going out again the following weekend, again she asked and he said yes. She asked if I could give her any advice about him, which I thought was kind of awkward. My ex has always preferred when a girl is more into him than he is into her (one of the reasons why we broke up) but he usually is turned off by pushiness, so I said I was happy for her, but if he just broke up with his girlfriend, to not be too pushy.
So they went out that weekend and Monday she was furious that he hasn’t texted her back. I said he’s not the kind of guy that lives with his phone attached to him, and to give him some time. Apparently she didn’t listen to me because she texted him several times that afternoon and he didn’t text her back.
I found out from my good friend’s husband, who is still friends with my ex, that he does not want to go out with her again, because, surprise! she’s coming on too strong.
I sooo did not want to get into the middle of this! Today, A is all upset again and asked for me to call him to find what he thinks of her. I refused, as we really don’t talk any more, plus, it’s not my place to do that. This isn’t high school! I said maybe she was too pushy with all her texts.
A is mad that I’m not being a “good friend”, and is now accusing me of saying bad things to him about her. Ugh! I will never hear the end of this from her, even though I didn’t say anything to him at all!
This is why I don’t want my friends dating my ex!