Post # 62
- Wedding: May 2013 - The bride's hometown United Methodist Church near Kalamazoo
Yes, I would be upset if I did’t have an engagement ring. I definitely don’t believe that “no ring=no engagement”: I believe being engaged is a period of life and the jewerly is just a symbol of it, but I do believe it’s a very important symbol. Now, it doesn’t have to cost a ton: my ring cost less than $100. It’s sterling silver, not gold; an opal and pink sapphires, not a diamond, and I love it so much. So it’s not the price that matters to me–it’s the thought that my fiance went out, bought a ring, and presented it to me as a symbol of his commitment.
Post # 63
When we decided to get married I told my then Fiance that I didn’t care about an e-ring. I told him I would just get a really pretty wedding band. He was adamant that I have a e-ring so he finally gave me one when he found one he liked. The wedding was entirely planned before I even had the ring on my finger but we were no less engaged. As you mature and learn what’s truly important in life you realize all the material things are meaningless.
ETA: My grandmothers never had engagement rings and they were married to my grandfathers until death. Same with my mother and father. So were they never really engaged. I mean their marriages lasted anywhere from 45-62 years.
Post # 64
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
I would be upset if I didn’t have an engagement ring.
Post # 65
You need a ring and a date set in order to be officially engaged In My Humble Opinion.
Post # 66
Heck yes! I think an engagement ring is more than a symbol of his love. It’s a sign of his commitment. Just like I put a deposit down on my house to let them know I was serious, I want a deposit down on our future to let me know he’s serious. My husband didn’t intially propose with a ring but we kept the engagement quiet until I had a ring. He bought the ring within a month of my saying “yes”.
I know too many people that yell “my fiance” or “we’re engaged” with no ring, no date, no future wedding plans. They’ll be engaged to the next one, the same way they’re engaged to this one, and was engaged to the last one. [Of course not everyone is like this. I just know too men who are quick to call a woman their “fiance” when they had no intention of marrying anybody or their “wife” as long as they don’t have to really commit to anything or anybody.]
I can understand the FB girl being upset and concerned about his real intentions but embarrassing her Fiance is just being manipulative and not the right way to start off this new stage in their relationship.
Post # 67
I don’t care if it’s a thin tiny band or a $20 cubic zarconia… I really do feel like the ring means a lot.
Post # 68
I have only read the initial post and no responses yet. Here’s my 2 cents – I have been engaged since May and I don’t have an ering yet. I know it’s in the works, but I have no idea when I will receive it. Yes it’s kind of awkward because my coworkers and friends keep asking when I’ll get it… I really wish I had it too.
But I think it’s kind of mean to post a rant on FB about it! I would never do that to my Fiance. I am just being patient. Sure I may say to my best Girlfriend that I wish I had it, but I wouldn’t broadcast it on FB! That may be where some of those negative comments are stemming from, IMO.