(Closed) Would you care if your SO went here for lunch? Possibly NSFW

posted 10 years ago in Relationships
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  • Post # 103
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

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    @meliss: this.

    actively going to a place whose main objective is to encourage men to ogle women and treat them as objects is where the problem lies for some of us. it’s not that we don’t trust our SO. obviously my SO will see beautiful women – and he will notice them, i have no doubt. and that’s fine with me because i notice attractive men too. it’s not that we don’t want our SOs simply looking at/noticing attractive women. it’s sad to me how women are viewed in our society. howcome no one stops to think about why there isn’t an establishment (or thousands of them) that is geared toward women being encouraged to ogle men? i’m so tired of the whole thing and i refuse to go to a place that just perpetuates the idea that women are only good for serving food and looking hot. there are plenty of restaurants that have delicious wings that aren’t served by girls whose boobs are hanging out.

    none of us are calling the women who are okay with their SO visiting places like this names. but somehow, over and over, those of us who are not okay with it get called names like prude, distrustful, insecure, etc. i don’t get it. this is something we are going to have to agree to disagree on….

    Post # 104
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

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    @meliss: i completely agree with you. i would be uncomfortable if my hubby went somewhere like this, not because i’d be jealous or insecure, but because it’s just that it’s all about objectifying women

    Post # 105
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    It’s no different from Hooters and Twin Peaks? And why DO women care? Honestly, to me that just says a few things (and I am aware this will ruffle some feathers and I am sorry for that.) A) You don’t really trust him. B) You are insecure. or C) You are controlling. Sorry, but it drives me insane! I don’t care what he does because I know that at the end of the day he is going to come home, having been faithful, because he loves me and I trust him. If he doesn’t come home faithful, we are done. Controlling him wont change his eventual trip down the unfaithful road in that case. And if it is from the “subjecting women” camp then I believe those women chose to subject themselves. Same as porn. He isn’t cheating on you when he looks at those things. He is being human. Plenty of women go to similar places and watch porn as well and I don’t consider that cheating either. Now, touching in a provocative way? Cheating. But this is all just my opinion and I know not everybody agrees with me. And that is fine!

    Post # 106
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

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    @Mrs Hedgehog: most women that have said that they are against this type of place have said that they don’t like places like this because it objectifies women (or something similar to this). do you think that we are all lying? also, i’m sure none of us have been telling our Fiance that they aren’t allowed to go. my Fiance doesn’t go because he thinks those places are trashy and is not interested in objectifying women. period.

    none of us are saying mean things about you personally. please! tell us why YOU are okay with YOUR FI/SO going to place like this. NOT why others are not okay with it.

    Post # 107
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

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    @mrs.jk: Is it bad that I pictured this when reading your post, haha!

    Chris Farley Chippendales

    There is no right or wrong.  I am fine with my husband going with the boys, and I have been with him here and there.  We both like the food.  I could care less if he checks out the girls.  This works for us, and not going works for you.  Different strokes, right?  As long as we are all happy and have happy marriages, than who’s to say that one way is better?

    Post # 108
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    Nope. Wouldn’t care.

    Post # 109
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

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    @meliss: I agree with your original comment. 

    Reasons for detesting such a place have nothing to do with jealousy or insecurity.  It is about values, and that is exactly what I was trying to say.

    It surprises me that ladies would think otherwise. 

    I trust DH 100% and love “what I was given.”  Women are beautiful and that is one of the many great wonders of the world, but I would never be married to someone who would support a place that is disrespectful to them.

    Also, there was a huge/ IS a huge lawsuit against the Tilted Kilt here- the manager or owner have not been paying the girls and other employees.  Great values.

    If DH was going out to eat he would go to a local place with organic local products.  Those are our values.

    Post # 110
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

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    @Miss Lilac: I appreciate the lovely shape of her mammaries!

    OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL!!!!!! I must show this to my Fiance. Thank you for making me laugh this morning!

    Post # 111
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    My Fiance’s answer:

    “Well, they [the servers] seem to be clean. I would eat there.”

    Post # 112
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    There’s a chain called the Ale House around NC – same concept. Plaid mini skirts that barely cover, and tiny t-shirts. I don’t really mind since we don’t go there THAT often, but everyday would be overkill. If Fiance goes I wouldn’t care, but I agree with your friend on this one: going everyday is overkill.

    Post # 113
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

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    @.twist.: Hahaha. Glad to have been of service! 😉

    Post # 114
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    As long as the menu doesn’t include the girls, it’d be fine 😛

    Post # 115
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Like some previous bee’s said, we have a Tilted Kilt around here. We especially crossed over to St Pete to go, and yes, I said WE, I wanted to check it out. We had a great time. Drinks were good, food was really good, and our server was pleasant on the eyes. We joked around with her and asked where I could get a similar bra to the awesome one she was wearing. Would I care if he went with his buddies? Not at all.

    Post # 116
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

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    @vmec: hey, me too! lol

    Post # 117
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

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    @vmec:Bahahahahaha! I love that. Hilarious.

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