(Closed) Would you change back your last name?

posted 8 years ago in Names
  • poll: Would you change you last name back to maiden or take on new hubbys name ?
    yes : (65 votes)
    74 %
    no : (23 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 3
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    2871 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    If I had kids and we divorced I would keep his last name so it is in line with the kids.

    Once they are grown and out of the house I would either keep it or change it if I remarried.

     

    Post # 4
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    3613 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    In my home country your last name automatically changes with a marriage AND divorce, so this is a no brainer to me. Even though I live in the US now, I would definitely change my name if we got divorced. I hyphenate it now anyway so it’s not like I lost my old identity. You win that argument with your husband 🙂

    Post # 5
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    3374 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    My aunts who have gotten divorced changed their last names back to their maiden names (and they’d been married 30 years). It was awkward for them to tell us to call them by their new last names (on mail and such), but it’s fine now.

    Post # 6
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    4137 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    your poll question is an either/or, and your answers are yes/no. it doesn’t make any sense.

    i don’t think it matters whose name you use.

    Post # 8
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    1135 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    @kitzy: She’s asking if you would do one or the other.  So if you would either change to your maiden name or take on your new husband’s name when you remarry, you answer “yes.”  If you would keep your ex husband’s name when you remarry, you would answer “no.”  It does make sense.

    ETA: Oops, Baileyh beat me to it.

    Post # 9
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    2829 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I would probably change my name back to my maiden name immediately after the divorce [if I were to hypothetically change my name in the fisrt place Wink].

    in the event of a new marriage I would either keep my maiden name or take my new partners name.

    Post # 11
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    2825 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    If we were married for a long time and kids were involved I would keep his name until I remarried…

    That said, FI’s ex wife still has his last name and it bothers me… They were married for about 4 years, no kids and she cheated on him… I don’t feel like she should be allowed to keep the name.  If kids were involved I would feel differently though.

     

    ETA:  I know someone who’s first husband passed away then remarried  and she kept both last names… They divorced and she recently got remarried and I believe dropped both last names and took her new hubby’s last name… But I’m not sure what her name is LEGALLY.

    Post # 12
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    206 posts
    Helper bee

    Kids or not, I would definitely not be keeping the name of a man I was divorced from. No way Jose!

    ETA: My aunt went back to her maiden name as soon as she was divorced. There weren’t any identity issues with her kids. In fact,  they say that it would have been weird having a mom and step-mom both being called Mrs. X, since her ex re-married.

    Post # 13
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    2392 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    My grandmother remarried and kept her first husband’s last name (she had two kids, both boys, who were late twenties/early thirties when she remarried).  I think she did it for two reasons  1) she already had a successful career as a screenwriter under her first husband’s last name and 2)  our family’s last name is a VERY good last name for someone working in entertainment, which I suspect had something to do with her decision.

    In my case neither apply because I’m not changing my name in the first place… apparently once you’re a MyLast, you’re a MyLast for life.  Since we immigrated to the country and the last name originated a few generations ago, no woman has EVER changed her last name from MyLast to something else.  Granted, it’s a pretty small sample size (small families, lots of boys), but it’d be pretty weird to be the first.

    Post # 15
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    2825 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @Entangled: Now I’m interested as to what your last name is! lol  What an interesting name history!

    Post # 16
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    If I divorced, I would change my last name to my maiden name and never change it again if I got remarried, whether my kids were grown and out of the house or not.

    I think it’s a fallacy that there are any legal reasons why it’s easier to share a last name with your kids. It is more convenient when they are in school because that way teachers will not call you by the wrong name, and no one will verify that you are the parent if you come to pick them up from school in an emergency (they should do that whether you share a name or not, but that’s another story). If there is a legal reason that you need to be identified, it doesn’t take very long to do it, no matter what your names are!

    FTR, my mom kept her married name after my parents were divorced (but that was after 25+ years of marraige), and after she re-married. She’d established her profession with that name and didn’t want to confuse her clients.

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