(Closed) Would you change the date

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Should I change/cancel the date?
    Yes, change it./cancel it; missing one month isn't a big deal even if she doesn't sue that date : (5 votes)
    23 %
    Change it/cancel it & then anyone who doesn't go to her party can still have the monthly gathering : (6 votes)
    27 %
    No, do not change/cancel it. She never participaates & no one will go anyway so enjoy yourselves : (10 votes)
    45 %
    Other (please specify) : (1 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    485 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    The bitch in me says screw you! (to her of course) she can find another date… sorry you were HOPING to have your engagement party that day… find a different day sister and maybe let some people know ahead of time!

    Post # 4
    2742 posts
    Sugar bee

    I would diplomatically tell her that ‘no’ can do. Tell her to come down to her parents part of time and hang out. You guys can give her a shower then.

    Post # 5
    966 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    If you send out regular invites to the monthly gathering, say something along the lines of “If you can’t make it to (Cousin’s) engagement party, I’m still up for our monthly get together!”

    Post # 6
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    As much as I would like to join the “screw you” club (haha), I honestly think that her rude behavior shouldn’t become an excuse for the rest of the family to act rudely towards her in response. Kind of take the high road, if you will.

    If I were in your shoes, I would do the following:

    1) Ask her when she plans to send out invitations/finalize her plans

    2) (Immediately) notify the women in the family that IF her shower is that weekend, the monthly get together will happen on the 2nd Saturday instead of the 1st, just this once, so that anyone who wants to go to her shower will be free to do so

    3) Change plans if/when she announces her shower for the same day. Otherwise, keep your plans.

    Post # 7
    8738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @ddw: I feel this is the best (and most diplomatic) approach. That way the event is only cancelled/moved IF the engagement party actually happens.

    Taking the high road is a better option… as much as this situation seems to warrant the “screw you” approach.

    Post # 9
    8353 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    In my opinion, you have already sent out the invites for your get together, so I would not cancel. She can reschedule her engagement party. She doesn’t even have a firm date. Just let her know you are sorry, but the invites have already gone out and you have already received RSVPs, so you can’t change the date, but you would be happy to attend her engagement party on another day.

    Post # 10
    1580 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think you should make the first saturday get-together into her engagement party in your town (her hometown). If she doesn’t like that idea, then just go ahead with your plans until she sends invitations for her engagement party, and then go from there.

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