Post # 1
Having trouble posting this one. So several years back, it was time to buy a new car because my old car was failing me, I couldn’t afford the maintenance, and my bank rejected me for a used car loan. Instead of going with a color I’ve admired for years, I played it safe and went with a common color that has historically held its value better than other colors. Some days I was happy with my choice, other days it was just okay, but most days I wished I had gotten the color I actually wanted, rather than trying to predict the future. Now that I’m looking at rings, I’m faced with the same dilemma: do I go with what I know, get what I love right now, or decide on the classic style that will hold up in the future?
There a few ring styles that draw me in, although I’ve never looked at them in person. I will say that the first and third ring styles are the most me from a design perspective, with the third style being easier logistically in the long run.
Past: One ring is the same style as my year-old RHR and is beautiful, romantic, and a little vintage. I love this style because of its charm, but I don’t know how much it will hold up aesthetically compared to other ring styles; I’m worried it will look old and outdated in the future, but I’ve liked this style for a year. I have history with this style.
Present: The second style is something newly discovered and glamorous, but I don’t know that it’s time-tested for me and I think this is more of a phase. It’s beautiful but overall far more glitzy than what I actually wear.
Future: A ring we have all seen countless times and has held up every single time. This ring is beautiful, elegant, and timeless. It is a little understated but gives lots of options for bands and stacks. I love it now more than the second style but less than the first, although it is the most “me”. This style will most likely still be classic in another 50 years and there is a lower chance of me outgrowing it and changing my mind.
Without revealing details that might bias anyone: Which would you choose?
Post # 2
I’d go classic. Unlike a car that you’ll replace in a matter of years anyway, most people buy an engagement ring with the intention for it to last a lifetime, so I think it’s practical to go with something you see yourself loving for a long time and that will age well.
Post # 3
browneyedgirl24 : Thank you for mentioning that. I meant this scenario to assume there will be no upgrades, etc.
Post # 4
Idk, I wouldn’t overthink things and would just get what you love. If it’s a trendy design, so what? It might go out of style, but you might still love it and want to keep rocking it. And if you don’t, you can reset it.
I have a classic plain solitaire but only because it’s what I always wanted and I just didn’t care for any other designs. 🤷♀️
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2019 - City, State
You should love it, but I would go with timeless. Had the same question and thought about it, what’s going to look good on my wrinkly hand 40 years later and that I think I’ll still love? Do I want the trendy rings too? YES but get them as RHRs or anniversary rings, doesn’t have to be your main ring.
Post # 6
Get what you love. Who cares what is on trend or considered “safe.” Down the line, get RHRs to scratch the itch of whatever else you like. TBH, regardless of what you get now, your taste will probably change eventually no matter what.
Post # 7
ispeakingifs : I would just go with what you love NOW and not be so concerned with the future. I have a plain solitaire with a plain band but migt change it up later, either change the setting or do a complete upgrade and change everything.
If you aren’t super stuck on having this ring be the one you wear forever than I would just choose what you want in the moment.
Post # 8
Just get what you love. I knew my ring when I saw it online, and was even more sure when I saw it in person. I knew I would be happy to look at it every day for the rest of my life.
Post # 9
I would definitely go classic. 22 years ago, when I was 20 my husband gave me an engagement ring that I loved at the time but it was a very 90’s style that his cousin who is a jeweler talked him into. In those 20 years my style and likes changed. 3 years ago he upgraded my diamond but didn’t love the setting so we changed it to something more classic and timeless, very happy girl 😍
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard
I would get what you love. Everything ends up looking dated in some way eventually. But the thing is it all comes back around again and is in style again. Otherwise people wouldn’t be buying up so much vintage and antique jewellery!
Post # 12
That’s hard for me to answer, because I would say go with whatever you love whether it’s “trendy”, classic, vintage, etc. If you get what you love and most importantly appreciate the love behind it, it will be “timeless” in your eyes and the “best”. The marquise cut was so popular a while back, but not so much now. However, I know older people with them who are still swooning over their marquise engagement rings.
Post # 13
Don’t be concerned that people will think it looks outdated down the line or buy something that is a trend that society/ fashion dictates. It truly doesn’t matter what others think. The ring is on your hand and you are the one looking at it everyday. Just find something that makes your heart sing. Big, small, cluster, gemstone, solitaire, plain band or whatever.
We can’t go through life wondering about what other’s think of our rings, cars, homes, lifestyle as it becomes such a confining and often shallow way to live. Wear what makes you happy. If your tastes change and you want to change it then change it or you may want to wear that ring you love for ever and always.
Post # 14
Classic. Originally, I thought I liked halos but when I tried it on, it was too much and too trendy for me. I wanted my diamond to stand out more and not be hidden. So I have a classic ring – solitaire with pave band. And I’m so glad I did it. Someone asked me 5 years from now, what will I like and I knew immediately a solitaire was what I preferred.
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey
We don’t know if we’ll be alive tomorrow, let alone in the future. I’m pro getting a ring you like right now no matter what the style is. You can always change your mind after all. I’d be bored with a simple solitaire, I don’t care if that’s timeless or not.