(Closed) Would you choose your child’s gender?

posted 9 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Oh this is such a good question!!!

Mr. DG knows that I want a girl so badly… He doesn’t care either way.  Since our first child will be biological and our second adopted, we just decided that we would leave it up to fate on the first one, but pick for the second by adopting the gender of our choice.

Oh and I should say that in the end we would be just as happy with either… Just want a healthy happy child!

Did you know that there are whole articles written on “gender disappointment”?  I’m going to go look for a link.

Seems like the original article is blocked, but this article links to a version of it.

http://womensrights.change.org/blog/view/its_a_girl_art_being_used_to_favor_daughters_over_sons

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I wouldn’t and I know he  wouldn’t either…

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

I don’t think I would. When I had my son I wanted a boy and Fiance wanted a girl. I liked being suprised when we went and found out the gender. I mean I might consider it now that I have a boy and want to have a girl, but if I did have a boy then I guess that’s what was meant to be. I’m 50/50 about it. Maybe or maybe not. I guess it would depend on the situation.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I definitely wouldn’t. I would be thrilled with children of either sex and I’d hate to intervene like that… I’m not really a religious or superstitious person, but I’d always wonder if I didn’t get the child I was “meant” to have. It’s silly, but I don’t think I’d ever stop wondering that.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I’d like to say I want it to be a surprise because I love when people don’t find out till the baby’s born. And I’d want to do the same – it’s the only real true surprise in life I think.

That said, as long as it was proven and safe, I probably would do it.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010 - Wyndham Sugar Bay Resort, St. Thomas

I wouldn’t want to pick, I’d rather leave it up to genetics and the cosmos. I think it’ll be fun not knowing for the first few months!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I’m OK with more reproductive technology than most people, but I don’t think I could destroy embryos for the reason that they are the wrong gender.  Disease?  I understand.  But gender, no.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I wouldn’t and I know the Mr. wouldn’t he doesn’t even want to know the sex when we are pregnant let alone choosing ahead of time!

I can’t help but wonder how it will affect the gender ratio of our population and the problem that would cause if the world was becoming predominantly male or female.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Even though I so desperately want a little girl when I have children, I think I would rather leave it up to fate. Choosing gender just starts down a slippery slope – ethics start to come into play here. Like the article pointed out, many countries, such as China and India, favor boys.

One of my classmates in nursing school had three boys – and during our maternity rotation, she confessed that she cried when her third son was born becuase she wanted a girl so badly. Of course she loves her boys…but I understand the whole concept of “gender disappointment”.

Fiance doesn’t really care wether we have a boy or a girl – I would ideally like both, but I really hope we have a little girl at some point.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I don’t think I would…I don’t think I’d be able to decide which gender I’d want, haha!!! I’d rather just leave it up to fate!

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

@chicagobride090210: I should have read the article first! I thought it allowed for gender selection; I didn’t realize it was for gender screening and destruction of wrong-gendered embryos. I’m with you; I’m not on board with selecting gender in this way.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Gender disappointment is such a big thing; I think most of the stories/websites I’ve read are all about couples who have multiple children of the same gender and have been trying for years to have just one child of the other gender.  It’s kinda sad, and I could definitely see how those parents might consider something like this.

I would say we wouldn’t choose this option, but we do both want to have at least one boy and one girl.  If that didn’t happen for us with the first three kids, we might consider picking the gender of our last child. 

Post # 16
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Blushing bee

Okay just read the article (should have read it before I replied). I would absolutely not destroy embryos of the wrong sex! Never in a million years. I know it’s not abortion or anything, but that’s kind of how I feel about it. That would be like harming one sex for the other, and I’m not okay with that at all. And that is so sad about China. I recently read an article about little girls being born and put up for adoption or even murdered. That is so horrible!!

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