would you consider charging your guests to attend?

posted 7 years ago in Money
  • poll: would you be ok if you were asked to pay 10 bucks per head towards your meal?
    yes : (4 votes)
    1 %
    no way : (244 votes)
    90 %
    maybe if i understood the situation : (20 votes)
    7 %
    other : (4 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    7777 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Um, no. A wedding is a party you throw for your friends and family in honor of yourselves. If money is tight, you find a way to squeeze pennies or you go to the courthouse. You can’t afford a wedding, you don’t have one. Simple as that. I’m going to be perfectly blunt when I say that charging your guests is unacceptable and extremely rude. I can honestly say that I probably would not attend your wedding, knowing I have to pay a surcharge to go.

    Plenty of brides have made do with teeny budgets. A friend of mine had a full Catholic wedding and reception for 100 people on $2000. Another good friend of mine is getting married in March and is having a tented golf-course wedding with an open bar for 200-250 people that’s only costing them $6k. Have a pot-luck, have a cash-bar, make do with someone’s backyardas a venue, have a friend get ordained online and marry you for free, make your dress, DIY decor. There are tons of ways to have an affordable wedding.

    It can be done without charging cover, I assure you.

    Post # 4
    Member
    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    It’s a wedding not a keggor or a rent party for college kids.  You work within your budget for the wedding you can afford and if your friends and family really love you they will understand the low frills wedding, maybe even gift you some money before hand. 

    I’m having a small budget wedding, and charging people hasn’t even entered my mind. I’m going to work with what I have and know that my family will still have fun and get to see me get married.

    Post # 6
    Member
    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    @LauraBenbow71: haha good I was going back and forth over wether or not i was being snarky. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    964 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I RATHER YOU HAVE A CAKE AND PUNCH RECEPTION THEN WHEN IT IS OVER I CAN GO SOMEWHERE AND HAVE A MEAL THAN ME PAYING FOR MY MEAL AT A WEDDING AND NOT LIKING THE FOOD.

    Post # 8
    Member
    10714 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I don’t think it’s that bad of an idea.

    Post # 10
    Member
    7777 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    @LauraBenbow71: Haha. I’m so glad it’s not you that wants to do this. I saw the post and I was like “WTF?!” I wrote that post like 5 times trying not to be super bitchy. Yep, stand your ground and don’t give in to this insanity. Sorry if I came off rude.

    Post # 11
    Member
    1690 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    If you cant afford to have them there,  then dont invite them.  its pretty insulting.  if i was asked for money i would not go.  not that the money would particularly be an issue…..but its not right. 

    I would have liked a bigger wedding with 100+ guests,  but we cant afford it,  so have scaled it down to less than 30 because we can afford that. 

    You have to cut your coat according to your cloth.   

     

    Post # 12
    Member
    4109 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I would feel bad/embarrassed doing it, personally. We had money gifted from family members to put towards our wedding, some of which will pay for food. So possibly just see how your parents/family can help out & contribute before the wedding?

    Post # 13
    Member
    1690 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @LauraBenbow71:

    just read your last response…..after I posted mine…..

    *note to self…..read ALL the posts before posting your own views!*   🙂

    Post # 14
    Member
    968 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    No, guests should not be charged to attend your wedding. I’ll back you up!

    Post # 15
    Member
    1686 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I answered “no”.

    If it were a family matter discussed in private, I might offer to help a sibling with their food budget if I knew we had the money.

    As far as having a wedding where guests are expected to pay to attend the reception, it’s up to the bride and groom how they want to do things, and if I were close to one or the other and knew this was coming, I might suggest they try to rearrange their budget or guest list so as to avoid it. If I were really close to them, I’d probably roll my eyes (privately) and just pay the ten bucks. But in general, if I were invited to a wedding with a “cover charge” I’d be RSVPing “no”.

    Post # 16
    Member
    1160 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Stand strong! I am sure you will have an awesome wedding on your budget. We also had people offering to pay for Dr. Random Cousin’s plate, which we just answered with a, “OH that’s so sweet but sorry we already sent the list to the caterer.” Whether we had or not at that point I don’t even remember. Heh.

     

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