(Closed) Would you consider this abusive behavior from a spouse?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
4008 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Every single one of those situations is a dead giveaway for an abusive relationship. 

Post # 3
9830 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012


Post # 4
2113 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Yes. Without a doubt. This is emotional abuse and violent behavior. You are lucky that he hasn’t laid a hand on you, but this is still abuse. This can in fact get worse…

Post # 5
780 posts
Busy bee

I’m shocked that you even need to ask. Run. Now. 

Post # 6
2255 posts
Buzzing bee

Uh, yes. Every single example. Number four alone would have me calling the police or demanding he speak to a mental health professional immediately. None of this behavior is acceptable on any level. 

Post # 7
2677 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

If not abusive, unstable nonetheless.  

Post # 8
77 posts
Worker bee

Yes, yes and yes thats abuse!

Post # 9
325 posts
Helper bee

Yes. Highly abusive… And scary. Be careful, OP. Regardless if he has laid a finger on you or not, he is clearly mentally unstable.

Post # 10
2942 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

100% yes.  These are classic abuse signs.  There is a whole lot of abuse that can happen before someone lays a finger on you.  And this will lead to it.  Please leave before that happens.

Post # 11
9079 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

It makes me lose a bit of faith in humanity that this question needs to be asked.

Post # 12
2330 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Definitely in the verge of becoming physically abusive. Run and fast. Not worth it

Post # 13
55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

There are various forms of abuse, and not all are physical.  I would consider all the above described situations abuse.  The remorse he shows after the abuse is very much part of the cycle of abuse.  Sending kind thoughts your way. 

Post # 14
47448 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Seriously? Anger management issues, threats of violence/death, destroying property, abrupt mood changes, derogatory name calling.

What part of this is not a warning signal? I suggest you seek immediate counselling if you are not ready to leave.

Post # 15
5217 posts
Bee Keeper

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NeedAdviceQuickly:  That person sounds like he has a flaming personality disorder and maybe even a mood disorder. Yes, it is abusive. Has he ever been treated for mental health issues?

That BS with the gun should have gotten the cops called and him pink slipped into a psych unit. 


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