- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 1999
The gun would have been the last straw for me. I would have left a long time ago.
Unless he goes into severe therapy I’d leave…. I moved back across the world to get rid of mine. Hell, I’d probably leave either way and when he’s taken care of himself then start over cautiously.
Please get yourself out of this situation! I’d second PP’s who said to contact a women’s shelter and close family & friends to form an exit plan and execute it. My mother was in an extremely abusive relationship (with many of these same examples) and knew that leaving was the most dangerous (and hardest) time. She found a women’s shelter and they were able to help her not only get out, but get her back on her feet following the situation. She’s now happily married with children and stronger than ever! There is life after abuse. Wishing the best for you! Stay strong and safe.
WHen you make your plan to leave I would remove the gun from the home. Drop it (unloaded) at a police station saying you feel nervous packing your things with a gun in the same house, or even have them escort you to pack your things. They will do that happily.
Please OP get out of there before something tragic happens!!!
This is terrible! Def. abusive, and it sounds like he could be bipolar, if unprovoked, his mood changes drastically in a matter of minutes
You should leave right away – before something bad happens, intentional or not. Your husband sounds very sick and I think he needs help. If the VA isn’t treating him properly, his Tricare insurance should still be accepted at many other places. I would stay with a friend or family member or in a women’s shelter and get a temporary protective order against him. I’m not sure where you live, but I got a protective order against an ex-boyfriend, and they basically just told me that since I came in and requested it, it was approved. I believe it was for 2 or 3 weeks and then you go to court and can ask to extend or drop it. I really think you should consider leaving and going somewhere safe. Are there any children involved?
He’s pulled a gun..he doesn’t have to lay a hand on you to kill you.
Get out and now. Get far away.
Please get out sooner than later. Your hsuband is volatile, hateful, irrational, and armed. None of those things will end well for you if you stay. Combined, I think you are actually in real and present danger.
Those things sound like it could escalate to a really bad situation, and I also see him being not a good role model for your kids 🙁 If you had a son, would you want him to think he could treat people that way, or if you had a daughter, would you want her to think it was normal to be treated that way?
I am so sorry you are going through this. It sounds like it would be really painful.
However, all of it (even if not thrown at you or hands are never put on you) is definitely mental abuse. Definitely seek some counseling. I think you need to try counseling, unless you are definitely, 100% sure you want divorce. He may change with some counseling, and possibly medication. But you are not going to change him and he is not going to change on his on.
You should call a domestic abuse hotline for advice on how to safely get out:
OP, is there an update? I’ve been thinking about you and worrying about you…
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