Post # 1
We just had our wedding a couple of weeks ago and I have a nagging question…
Our bartenders had to leave an hour before our wedding was over, so guests were welcome to help themselves to drinks at the bar. I found out at the end of the evening that several drunken guests took bottles of liquor and wine for their own consumption (or to their own afterparty) WITHOUT asking us or our coordinator.
Is this normal? Am I overreacting by feeling a little hurt, and thinking this is no different from showing up at a party and taking things from a host’s home? I’m pretty sure nobody would have done this is we/bartenders were behind the bar.
Post # 3
Wow that is really tacky, sorry man
Post # 4
That’s stealing. I’d be upset but I’m not sure what you could do.
Post # 5
I agree with ejs4y8. Not just stealing, but tacky.
Post # 6
WOW! that is horrible I would be so mad if my guests did that!
Post # 7
That isn’t cool at all in my book. That is essentially stealing from you guys. If nothing else, its just disrespectful. Sorry that happened! If it makes you feel better, my husbands friend stole a bottle of wine from behind the bar at the after party… while the bartender wasn’t looking. Nice.
Post # 8
I am assuming you paid for all the liquor there? It wasn’t the venues bar? Were you charged more for the bottles they took?
It’s very rude. However, I can totally see drunk people doing that. It’s just plain rude though and even if you were allowed to take the rest of the bar/you paid for all the bottles, they were stealing from you and your husband.
Post # 8
Yiiikes. That’s bad news and pretty outrageous on the part of your guests.
Post # 9
i agree with pp…more tacky then stealing but theres nothing you can do about it now, so no worries
Post # 10
Sorry this happened to you – it was definitely wrong. There’s nothing you can really do about it now though, so I would just try to forget about it and move on.
Post # 11
not cool! it is DEFINITELY stealing. and i can guarantee those ppl would NOT have done that if there were a bartender throughout the entire night. i hope you didn’t have to pay extra for their rude act.
Post # 12
Yes, I would say this is stealing. I realize it has nothing directly to do with you. If you were married at a venue which had a bartender, it’s pretty unlikely that your guests would have mistaken it for a free-for-all – I’ve seen “leftovers” taken only from a backyard wedding after the bride & groom gave their OK (seeing as they had provided it)
Did you have a cash bar or an open bar? Just wondering if you venue will be charging you for the missing bottles.
Post # 13
I don’t necessarily think that was the best behavior on your guests behalf, but at the same time looking at it through vodka goggles I can see how they’d be like “well it’s an open bar and already paid for no use in leaving it here…”
I’m not saying I condone that, but I can see where they were coming from – even if it wasn’t the best behavior and I can totally understand why you’d be a little put off by the situation.
Post # 14
Yes it is stealing and yes it is tacky.
Post # 15
Thanks, guys. I needed someone to validate my feelings! My husband has just said it was pretty rude but he’s the type to let go of things more easily.
We paid for the liquor and wine ourselves. We actually did have a lot left over, but we wanted to save some for an event the next day, and also for own use, of course.
I’m just really disappointed in these “friends”…it’s made me think a lot this past few days.