(Closed) Would you Dare?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you use ever use a thank you note writing service?
    Never, that is the height of rudeness. : (42 votes)
    66 %
    Maybe, if guests would not recognize my handwriting : (17 votes)
    27 %
    Yes, I have a disability which makes it difficult for me to write. Ex: Dislexia, disgraphia : (5 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    941 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think it’s a hard question to answer without knowing the reasoning you’d choose this.  I think if you’re like, eh I don’t like writing thank you notes, they’re annoying, it may not be the, um, nicest choice.  If you’re realllllly busy with other things, it may not be a bad thing.   And, because you listed is as an option, if there’s a learning challenge that would make it really difficult, then that seems reasonable.  And I hope your guests would understand.

    Ultimately, I’d say a thank you note, no matter what form, is important.  And if it IS possible to do it on your own, then that’s probably the nicest option.  Though I know you only know yourself best, and ulmately if a note writing service is really the best option, then you can choose that.

    Post # 4
    172 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I would not use a thank you writing service.  In part because I want to take a minute to thank the gift-giver for the item and, if appropriate, mention something memorable about them at the wedding.  The other part is because I tend to be a little controlling and I don’t know what the service would write.  For example, if I want to say something about how a dish is going to go well for the cranberries on Thanksgiving, or how I will use the cash for something fun on my honeymoon, I would just be afraid that the note would sound too canned.

    It’s probably not what you want to hear, but I would be offended and think it was rude if I received a thank you note that was not personally written.  For me, it’s on the same line as not receiving a note.  Sorry!


    ETA: When my cousin was married, his wife did all of the thank yous because he had a physical condition that did not allow him to write.  If you have a disability, perhaps you can employ help to write your thoughts?

    Post # 5
    541 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would, if I thought I could get away with it and no one would know. If I can be lazy about something, I am lol.

    Post # 6
    297 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    i think if you still make the thank-yous somewhat personal… and you and you hubbie can actually sign the notes, then the service is fine.  are you really going to have that many to write that you definitely need a service???? maybe you and husband can split the thank yous between the two of you. its a tough decision for sure

    Post # 7
    875 posts
    Busy bee

    I think if there is a physical reason that you cannot handwrite a thank you… you could type it or dictate it to your friends…  or have your spouse or another family member help you with this project.  I don’t have a problem with you typing our the thank you and signing them individually.  I don’t know how a service could write a proper thank you unless you literally are dictating exactly what you want to say to each and every guest.   I have a problem with just a generic thank you note from some service.

    Post # 8
    1068 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Thinking about the time that your guests have spent picking out a gift and attending your wedding, the most that they deserve is a hand-written thank-you card. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

    Post # 9
    565 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    no!  never!  I was brought up that you ALWAYS send out thank you cards for everything…you do it yourself.  we are not asking nor expecting any gifts at our wedding (not even having a bridal shower) but if someone does, they will get a hand written thank you note.

    The topic ‘Would you Dare?’ is closed to new replies.

    Find Amazing Vendors