(Closed) Would you date a convicted felon?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you date a felon?
    Yes : (7 votes)
    2 %
    No : (218 votes)
    62 %
    It depends : (123 votes)
    35 %
    Maybe if he's really cute : (5 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 62
    Member
    575 posts
    Busy bee

    If he looked like Neal Caffrey, YES.

    I kid, I kid.

    Depends on the felony committed, I suppose. My job doesn’t rely on security clearances, etc. so no worries there. I’ve done some seriously stupid shit knowingly in my life, so I get the whole “having a past” thing.

     

    Post # 63
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    2980 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Nope. 

    Post # 64
    Member
    155 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    If it was for some sort of political vandalism I might not care.  How long/well I knew them + their ability to be successfuly employed would matter.  I would definitely not if the felony was for anything involving rape, violence, arson, etc.

    Post # 65
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    1912 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I voted maybe if he’s cute because I found it hilarious. Sorry OP for throwing the poll lol!

    Post # 66
    Member
    815 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    mandipandi:  HELL NO! You dont go to jail for minor things, so once they made it into jail, nope! 

    Post # 67
    Member
    2013 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    It depends on the offense, how long ago it was, the circumstances surrounding their conviction, etc. I would not automatically discount someone as a potential partner based soley on the fact that they have a criminal history.

    Post # 68
    Member
    1624 posts
    Bumble bee

    mandipandi:  Personally no I wouldn’t, not unless they’ve done it a long time ago and they were stupid and young and it wasn’t a big offence. The conviction your friends bf has, no way. Couldn’t trust him.

    Post # 69
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    769 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: Saint Domingue

    mandipandi:  To all those screeching, “No!  Never!” and “I do believe I have the vapors!  Get me my fainting couch, a FELON?!”  What if this person was wrongfully convicted?  It happens all the time.  Please see: “Making a Murderer” where man serves 18 years for crime he didn’t commit (and this is just the story making the most headlines right now.  People on Death Row have been exonerated by DNA evidence.  Yes, that’s people we were going to kill for supposedly killing another person/s.  The system gets it wrong far more than we’d like to admit.  Case in point: there’s always more to the story.  Don’t be so quick to judge.  

    Post # 70
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: Saint Domingue

    stefzbee:  It IS hilarious.  Pretty much the most hilarious thing I’ve seen on this site: ever.  Way to go, OP!  🙂 

    Post # 71
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    immoralbeloved: It’s not always coming from a judgmental place. For me, it’s just a necessary and logical response because of my job requirements. I don’t think any less of people for the mistakes they’ve made (or are wrongfully convicted of) and wouldn’t judge a friend or family member for being in a relationship with a felon. I’m not going to lose my clearance and law license over the person I’m in a relationship with, so it’s a dealbreaker for me. I spent a crapton of money on my legal education and lost months of my life studying for the bar exam. I wouldn’t throw it away to give a felon a chance.

    Post # 72
    Member
    540 posts
    Busy bee

    immoralbeloved:  Personally, I interpreted this thread as excluding wrongfully convicted people, but maybe that’s just me.

    Post # 73
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    immoralbeloved:  Umm… don’t think anyone “screeching” NO! are talking about innocent people. I would never date a convicted felon. Save me the dramatic fainting couch.

    Post # 74
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    3086 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    I’m marrying one. 

    My fiancé didn’t have the best childhood situation. He made friends with a group of kids that weren’t into the best activities after transferring high schools. After turning 18, they all were caught and charged. He moved sometime after to distance himself from bad influences and has stayed out of trouble since. This was years and years and years before we met. He’s never shown me any reasons to doubt his head is on straight. Neither of us have ever been interested in guns so it doesn’t affect us…and he’s not particularly sad about not being able to vote. He’s never had an issue with employment. So it’s fine for us.

    I can understand the answers in which it would depend. I would not be able to see someone whom had a history of sexual violence or violence in general. I also would not date someone recently convicted because I would want to see a long period of time in which they stayed on the right course. The same applies for me with anyone of a history of drug or alcohol abuse.

    Post # 75
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    264 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    i have once before. I know people can change, because my older brother did, so I guess that makes me more open mind.  He had done his time, made a big life change, was currently mentoring youth in his old neighborhood to not make the poor decisions he made, and had a successful career making way more than I was (even with 3 degrees).  A lot of people vouched for him being a good guy, and he always treated me well and respectful. I’m a sucker for handsome men that do community service and mentoring, so I gave it a shot. He wasn’t Mr. Right for me, but I hope he finds a wife someday. He really was ready for marriage and a pretty good guy.

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