(Closed) Would you date/marry someone whose political views that differed from yours?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you date/marry someone whose political views that differed from yours?
    Yes : (109 votes)
    52 %
    No : (99 votes)
    48 %
  • Post # 3
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    2186 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    well im a moderate and my FH is a conservative, so some things we agree on some things we dont, i always say he THINKS hes conservative but hes really moderate too. but for things as far as values and how we want to live our lives, its not a difference. so i guess if you are in agreement on the things that matter to your everyday lives, then its good to go.

    Post # 4
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    6597 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I probably could if he could discuss his views with me intellectually and could agree to disagree. However, if our opinions of deeply rooted political issues that way on my morals were different I could definitely NOT!

    Post # 5
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    1455 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Yes but I’d have to be involved politically in groups or have a good “political buddy.” Luckily Fiance and I are both conservatives with VERY similar views.

    Post # 6
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    166 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I’m with you on that – the social issues just hit so close to home! Luckily, my Fiance sees eye to eye with me on all the major social issues, although we have many differences in other areas! It keeps things interesting, I guess…

    Post # 7
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    5263 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    When we started out dating, R was socially conservative. It caused huge problems for us, because some of the issues are so important to me. Luckily we were young (14) and after time and real world experience we evened out. He’s now just as socially liberal as I am, and we’re a great fit. I do NOT think I could be with someone who was anti gay marriage or anti abortion. I just feel too strongly about it – it’s not so much that I wouldn’t stick with someone I love, I just think those views aren’t really cohesive with what I’m looking for.  

    Post # 8
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    2214 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I’m also VERY liberal, and I don’t think I could date someone who didn’t agree with my on social issues (the ones you mentioned above).

    Post # 9
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    485 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    If it was minor differences, then I wouldn’t have a problem. But if he was a major conservative then no. I am a total liberal and I couldn’t be with someone who didn’t believe in the right to choose, everyone’s right to marry, etc.

    Post # 10
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    2196 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I don’t think I could marry someone whose values were dramatically different than mine, no.  What would we bond over?  How would we mediate between our differing views when allotting finances, raising our children, merely having conversations with one another?  I can’t imagine being in a relationship like that, sounds like it paves the way for either a relationship full of fights or a not very intimate relationship, as the partners rarely would open up to avoid clashing.  Maybe I’m wrong, but I can’t see it working.

    Post # 11
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    2463 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    i’ve always been very liberal, and i work in social policy research, and my politics are very related to my values, so dating a conservative just wouldn’t have ever worked for me. it’s funny though now that i live in dc because my friends are on a much wider range of the political spectrum than any other time in my life. when i first moved here and met fi, i was talking to our best man’s gf at the time (who is also liberal) during happy hour, and i didn’t realize our best man is conservative. i very loudly said “i’d never ever date a republican!” and then it was really awkward/hilarious.

    Post # 12
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    950 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’m a Catholic…as of yet, there’s no Catholic political party (against abortion, for gay civil rights & civil union, against gay marriage – Catholics view marriage as a sacrament, not a right, for immigration reform, against parts of the healthcare bill, for greater gun-control, etc.), so I’m not really contained by one political party.  Fiance is a liberatarian…so we’re economically opposed (Catholics believe in a redistribution of wealth – that’s why we give money at church). BUT, we’re getting married in June because we love each other, because want to teach our children not only our values & my faith, but also the value of coexisting with those who may disagree with you. As long as the US doesn’t start another civil war over abortion/embryonic cell research, I see a long happy marriage in our future.

    Post # 13
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    2208 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    No on social issues, but Fiance and I do have differing views on environmentalism, and we both work in environmental fields: him, actual conservationist (he conserves land for a living); me, private land use and water lawyer (mining and development permitting, water transfers, etc.). I am practical on environmentalism, he is a radical. So on something really important, we don’t agree. And yet!

    Post # 14
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    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Not if we had RADICALLY different points of view. I am extremely liberal to the point of being borderline socialist. i couldn’t date a confirmed republican. I can date someone who isn’t AS liberal as me or someone who has similar values but some different ideas. My Fiance is more moderate than I am but he still is socially liberal and is open to my points of view. 

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    My Fiance and I could not be further on opposite ends of the spectrum… and politics are not something either one of us take lightly.  I don’t know how it works, but it does.  We’re both really open minded about what the other has to say, without losing our own political identities.  We have a really good relationship, despite it all.  There is actually a Luke Bryan song that perfectly sums us up.  The guy wears cowboy boots a drives a rusty chevy and the liberal girl gets him to go to a “sushi, vegi, raw, and edgy natural stuff” restaurant. 🙂

    Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    FH and I have differing view points on solutions to political/government problems but we don’t differ that much ultimately.

    I would not choose someone who has drastically different political views than I do. It would be like talking to my Mom all day – she’s about the polar opposite.

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