Post # 1
I was watching Locked Up Abroad. In the story, the man told his wife to divorce him because it would be easier on her. She refused. This got me thinking if I would divorce my husband if he went to prison.
I’m choosing no I would not divorce my husband. The choice is difficult though! I would like to think I could stick around regardless.
Obviously there’s a hierarchy to crimes so for the purposes of this poll I will exclude cases of premeditated murder. If you choose ‘No, I would not’ all other crimes are included. I included a choice for No, even if it were premeditated murder.
ETA: I figured a lot of people would say “it depends.” It is such a difficult question because there are a lot of factors so let’s say you have to make a decision-yes or no. OR you have to make the decision without knowing the crime.
Post # 3
I think it depends what he was in prison for. Assuming it was nothing henious then no.
Post # 4
definitely would depend on what he went for..
Post # 5
It really depends on the crime. If they raped someone, brutally beat someone up, stole, trafficked drugs, embezzled money or anything of the sort, I doubt I could stand by them as these are things that I do not agree with and cannot bring myself to be with someone who could do these things.I consider myself to be a moral person and I would hope that my partner would have the same morals. If they did a crime that was against these morals, I don’t see how I could stay with them knowing they are not a moral person.
Post # 6
It would 100% what he did. Did he directly hurt someone (ie, assault, rape, murder, etc)? Then I think I would. If he went to prison because he committed fraud or embezzlement or who knows what else, I’d have to consider whether that fundamentally altered who I thought I was married to.
Post # 7
haha no, me and my s/o have actualy been in jail together, THAT was a bonding experience (long story , we were fighting for a political cause, not charged with anything )
So him going to jail would not be an automatic deal breaker, it really depends on the reason for him being in jail
Post # 8
This is 100% circumstantial in my opinion – so unfortunately I cannot answer your poll.
Post # 9
I would definitely divorce him if his crime was purposeful murder. Otherwise… it probably would still depend on the specifics, but if I could accept what he did, even if it was wrong, I would stay married.
Post # 10
It really depends on the crime. If he went to prison for something like a DUI, maybe not. Of course by that point he would likely have more than one under his belt and have a drinking problem soooo…that might be a reason for divorce, I don’t know.
I would divorce him if he murdered someone. I would divorce him if he inentionally harmed a child in any way. If he went for embezzlement or something white collar I would not divorce him.
Post # 11
depends on what he did and how long he’d be away for…
Post # 12
It definitely depends on the situation and length of the sentence. If it was something stupid but nothing that harmed anyone then no, I wouldn’t. If it were rape, murder, sexual abuse or anything else really harmful, then probably. Also if it were some crazy long sentence I’d probably consider it as well.
Post # 13
It would definitely have to depend. If he was a rapist, child molestor, drug trafficer, killer, or something serious like that, I’d have to let him go. If it was for something like DUI getting arrested for something petty then no.
Post # 14
In general, I did not choose anything, because it would depend on what he is in for and if I thought he was guilty.
I know he would not do anything really serious so I would definitely support him if that were to happen though.
Post # 15
It would really depend on what he did…
Post # 16
@Eight6Eleven: I agree. I voted yes, I would leave him in the poll, because there are crimes I actually think are worse and more destructive than pre-meditated murder: sexual assault and child molesting, for instance. I think these things would break our vows of committment to each other and I would have to leave him for them. But if it was something lesser, even if it was hard, I’d definitley try to stay with him through it all.