(Closed) Would you divorce your husband if he were sent to prison?

posted 8 years ago in Legal
  • poll: Would you divorce your husband if he were sent to prison?
    Yes, I would. : (40 votes)
    33 %
    No, I would not. : (72 votes)
    59 %
    No, I would not. Even if it were for premeditated murder. : (10 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 32
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    No, never. I know my husband & no matter what the crime he’d either have gone crazy or have his reasons. Either way it’s not a good reason for me to turn my back on him.

    Post # 33
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    1734 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    It would definitely depend on the crime, whether or not I thought he was innocent or guilty, and (if he was convicted) his sentence. I mean, if he were found guilty and got life without the possibility of parole… then, yeah, I’d probably divorce him. Any crime heinous enough to warrant that sentence would be a dealbreaker for me. And I don’t want to spend my one life on earth chained to a criminal till death do us part.

    Not to mention, I don’t really want to expose my daughter to a step-dad who’s a convict, or possibly make her think that, because I stayed with him, the crime he committed was somehow okay or acceptable. It’s harsh, but she’s higher on my priority list than he is.

    Post # 34
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    142 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    I would divorce him if it was for:

    -rape

    -child abuse/molestation/whatever

    -killing someone because of his stupidity(I’m thinking largely of a drinking and driving case where he killed someone – not a true “it was an accident” case).

     

    I would not divorce him if it was for premeditated murder – unless he killed someone I love(like our children, my close family). White-collar crimes. Drugs. Whatever else, I think I could deal with.

    Post # 35
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    814 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Without a second thought. He’d be gone. I can’t think of any exceptions.They don’t send people tp gaol for no reason, it’s because you’ve done something bad.

    If my husband were arrested for murder, rape etc I wouldn’t divoce him the same day because to me it’s obvious that he didn’t do it. He’s a criminal prosecutor for goodness sake haha. However if he were arrested and he DID do it (whatever ‘it’ is), yep, divorce.

    Post # 36
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    4369 posts
    Honey bee

    @photogestelle:  Actually, people get sent to jail unjustifiably all the time. 

    Post # 37
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    1512 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I don’t think I would. I know he wouldn’t go off killing anyone for no reason, so if he has a reason, I’d probably be ok with it. For example, if we knew 100% someone had harmed/molested our child, and he killed that person, I would definitely stand by his side and wait. If he went on a killing spree downtown for no reason, I would assume there was something mentally wrong with him. I might leave him then, but I’d have to talk and see what the hell was going on first.

    Post # 38
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    168 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I haven’t seen any vows that say “…except if you get convicted of a crime.” Short of an attack on me or our family in which he shows no remorse or willingness to change, I would not divorce him. That’s what marriage is about.

    Post # 39
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    634 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Regardless I would divorce him. I have our kids to think about and that’s not something I would want them to be subjected to if I could help it. 

    Post # 40
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    2491 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Depends on the crime. Around here some woman is being charged for killing her 4 month old son, but they aren’t saying how. I think even if it was depression or an accident, if he killed our child our of anger/frustration, divorcing him would be top of the list.

    I’d also divorce him if he went to jail for being any sexual crime. Not right. Or harming a child. That’s unforgiveable and I’d want to protect our kids.

    If he went to jail for… I dunno… something like drug possession (wouldn’t happen caus ehe doesn’t do drugs, but an example), I might stay around, depending on a bunch of factors.

    Post # 41
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    4713 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1998

    @FMM:  +1

    Post # 42
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    1766 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Some of you are getting jail and prison mixed up. They’re different. Someone goes to jail after an arrest, and often but not always, to await trial. You can bail someone out of jail. People in jail are only accused, not convicted of a crime.

    You go to prison after you get convicted. There is no bail out of prison.

    Jail: Shoplifting, DUI, disorderly conduct and similar misdemeanors, or charged with a more serious crime and awaiting trial

    Prison: Charged with a felony and found guilty by a jury of your peers

    Post # 43
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    9982 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    No, I can’t imagine divorcing him for any reason.  I know him and if he were sent to prison it would be that he was wrongfully convicted.  He would never commit a crime of such magnitude.  And if he did, I would still be there for him.  As he would for me.

    Post # 44
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    5427 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Prison? Depends if he actually did the crime, and that I mean if he was caught red-handed actually doing the crime…. some people are freed after YEARS in prison because they were innocent , or they were framed, especially in murder and rape cases… What then, my fellow bees, if your man was actually innocent and you divorced him, married someone else? 

    Post # 45
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    If he raped or assaulted someone, I would leave him. If he caused harm to a sex criminal, I would absolutely stay.

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