Post # 1
I wasn’t sure where to put this post but here it is….
My decorator just called me and gave me an address of a reception that she is decorating and wants me to drop by and have a look. To see her work and to be able to tell her what I like.
It is in a backyard as mine will be and she says that they wouldn’t even notice me and even if they did and knew why I was there that that wouldn’t mind.
Now, I don’t think I would mind either if it was my reception but that’s just me. I feel really weird about just showing up to someones reception uninvited and unknown.
She even told me to eat drink and be merry. Is she insane?
I know how much all that costs and there is no way I would even consider eating or drinking a thing let alone just showing up.
Would you do this?
Post # 3
Uh, no I wouldn’t feel comfortable at all. Unless she is paying for your food that isn’t really something she has the right to offer I would think.
Can’t she take photos to show you? A quick text or two to get the idea?
Post # 4
Sure (except for the eating and drinking part). We did it for a few places we were considering, and asked specifically when they were having the next weddings so we could go down and see the layout of the tables and how things were being done. It was really helpful in seeing the things we liked and what we wanted to change.
If the bride doesn’t mind, I’d go. There’s no reason to be there during the reception, but for the setup? Sure!
Post # 5
I personally, wouldnt do that. UNLESS I got an OKAY from the Bride herself. Or I’d happily wait or pictures that the Decorater could show me another time in person or via email.
Post # 6
@luvmyDwight: Can you stop in after it’s decorated but before guests get there? I might do this if I knew I’d be able to get in and out without being noticed. And I’d decline to eat or drink anything, of course.
Post # 7
I think I would be ok dropping by BEFORE the reception started, but not during… Maybe you can ask if that would be possible? Plus, you’d get a better view of the decoration if there aren’t a ton of people all over the place.
Post # 8
@Treejewel19: I know crazy right?
She has all kinds of photos on her website. So I don’t know why she wants me to see it in person. I told her my reservations about it but she insisted.
Post # 9
I would stop by very briefly once everything was decorated but before the wedding began. I would never just show up and eat other people’s food. It’s not hers to offer!!
Post # 10
@Mrs. Spring: I agree but she wants me to see it at night to see all the lights and such.
Post # 11
I know a lot of brides who would flip out if some random appeared at their wedding! I wouldn’t do it unless you really wanted and the bride and groom were cool with it. Just ask her for pictures or something.
Post # 12
I think that is very unprofessional of her to suggest that you do that. I would want an assurance from her that it is ok with the couple to stop by before they have arrived at the reception for a brief look. I would definitely not snoop around at the recpetion irself.
Post # 13
I stopped by my venue while the caterer was setting up to see the decor and the venue when it was set up for a wedding. But I would not show up when the guests were there. And I certainly would not crash the wedding and start eating and drinking! I’m surprised that the decorator suggested that. Sounds very odd to me.
Post # 14
I would never take part in someone else’s food and drink, and I also wouldn’t use this particular vendor – sounds to me like your wedding would be an open invite as well.
Post # 15
I would have a look round but not during the wedding reception itself – perhaps a quick tour before they come by?
But yes, I would never attend a wedding and “eat drink and be merry” – that’s just rude. I would be mortified if a stranger showed up at my wedding, ate my food and drank my alchohol that I paid for.
Post # 16
@KristenGotMarried: She implied that they would be ok with it but IDK if they know specifically that she is asking me (or others) to stop by and have a look.
I have already paid her so not having her is not an option plus I wouldn’t mind at all as long as I knew in advance.