Post # 1
Tonight Fiance and I were talking about our wedding. Somehow we got on the subject of work. He works with his family so that’s the connection I guess. He was telling me how upsetting it is that every one talks behind there back and they don’t work as a team. He said he really would rather elope or have a grand honey moon. I asked what he envisioned for our wedding and he said he wanted people to have a good time and to only have people that he knew loved us and were our friends. I agreed. We don’t want people to come to eat our food and put on a smile to talk behind our back…..Soooo we are thinking of inviting the people that matter most to us. This would be our G-parents, Parents, Sibs, family friends and our close friends. We also each have an aunt and uncle that we feel very close to. What do you guys think?
When I made the hypothetical guest list we still have about 80 people. It’s people that couldn’t make our 1st list because of lack of room which doesn’t make much since that we should not be able to invite people we really want there. Thoughts please…Anyone do this? How did it turn out? Thank you!
Post # 3
Sounds great to me. No point in paying for more people that you don’t really and truly want there. Intimate weddings are becoming really popular lately… and much more budget friendly. I wish I could convince my mom of it…
Post # 4
I think that sounds perfect! I think that guests should be only the ones that are going to support the couple, and esp not ones who are going to talk about them.
Post # 5
@hecallsmelove: Thanks. I guess I didn’t think of it as an intimate wedding since we would be inviting some aunts and uncles and not others. Our family is so big though that I’m not sure people will notice lol. Good luck on convincing your mom!
Post # 6
We’re doing much the same thing. Except, I had wanted to invite one aunt and one uncle that I am closer with. However, my mother said we shouldn’t do that; if we wanted to invite a few we would have to invite them all. Our list would balloon from 30 to 70.
So no extended family. We’re parents, siblings, grandparents, close friends.
Post # 7
We are only inviting close friends and family. Which means 2 of my grandma’s sisters who have always been part of my life are invited… her other 3 siblings that lived less than an hour away and I saw on rare occasion are not invited. I want to enjoy my day with the people I love not spend it thanking randoms for coming to have a free meal on my dime…
We have about 80 as well 🙂 Good Luck!
Post # 8
Go for it.
I’ve had several people tell me that, a few years later, they have 0 contact with a huge chunk of their guest list. the thought made me kind of sad. 🙁
Post # 9
We’re at 70 people. The only family will be parents, sibs, and one aunt and uncle. I’m looking forward to it, but I’m not in contact with my extended family so I don’t expect to experience any fall out.