(Closed) Would You do This?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you live this close to your [future] in-laws?
    Yes, as long as boundaries are set and abided by. : (17 votes)
    20 %
    Heck no, and I'll explain why in a comment. : (56 votes)
    66 %
    On the fence. : (12 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    It really depends on the inlaws…

    Me, I would probably have an easier time being this close to my in-laws then my own parents (well, just my mom actually) because I am more confident that they would respect boundaries.

    However, I desperately NEED a lot of space and privacy, so this is something I would NEVER agree to except if it was a health matter – I am an only child and when my parents get older, I know they won’t want to live in a retirement place so I’ll probably have to get a house with an apartment so they could live close and I could somewhat take care of them if they’re not healthy enough. DH’s parents don’t mind retirement homes, and Darling Husband has a sister so they can share the responsibility. Good thing, because that would be a really crowded house!

    Post # 4
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    5657 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I wouldn’t choose to live in the same building as my inlaws, but if everything else about the building made sense (price, location, style, ectect) then I would do it anyway… as long as his parents don’t seem too overbearing. I know that if I lived in the same building as my inlaws, they’d still pretty much leave us alone.

    Post # 5
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    1710 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

    No way, I need space.  For me, it doesn’t matter how close I am to my in-laws.  I am super-close with my family and I couldn’t live that close to them!

    Post # 6
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    3886 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I wouldn’t do this. No matter how strong your relationship with your in-laws is, or how strong your relationship is with your parents (from your SO’s point of view), mixing business relationships with personal relationships is a recipe for disaster.  At what point does mom stop being mom and start being landlord? What happens when you’re late on the rent or something expensive breaks and you have differing opinions as to how it’s best fixed? When it’s a landlord you butt heads with, you eventually move out and that relationship ends; when it’s your parents or your in-laws, the relationship will continue once the landlord/tenant relationship has ended, and there’s too many chances for one of those relationships to poison the other.

    Post # 7
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    1086 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    That is a little too close for my taste but I would do it if it seemed more practical. Just be sure to set boundaries or they will be up there all the time just walking in without knocking and all

    Post # 8
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    5423 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2012

    No thanks.  I would want to the independance.

    Post # 9
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    4009 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    You can’t have sex in the middle of the living room/kitchen/etc if you are sharing them with your in-laws. Plus, htey will know when you go to bed, get up in the morning, etc. I wouldn’t like it.

    Post # 10
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    3357 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    my in laws respect boundaries, but it’s definitely very aggravating being around them for too long. I personally wouldn’t

    Post # 11
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    3947 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    If the price was right…I’d do it. Especially if it’s only temporary.

    Post # 12
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    1186 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I would not.

    But I’m hung up on how a condo would have a mother-in-law apartment.  Isn’t a condo attached to other condos?  Where would the additional little house/apartment go?

    Post # 16
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    11752 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would never and I love my in laws. Just not the relationship I want to have with them. Boundaries are super important and whne you’re living that close to them I think it’s easier for those boundaries to be blurred and overstepped.

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