- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2010
My new Darling Husband just informed that “he needs to drive his sister back to his parents’ house 2.5 hours away next Saturday” and that I “can come” if I “want.” So that would be 4 or 5 hours of driving.
Well here’s the thing:
His family moved, yet the siblings are still in Girl and Boy scouts down here. Doesn’t make sense. Here’s a thought: join scouts up there! Or, have the scouts friends people drive her back. Usually my Mother-In-Law spends the night and brings her back or goes back and gets her. Her daughter is a bit old for girl scouts, anyways(almost 15).
For one thing, Mother-In-Law didn’t ask ME if I could please drive her daughter back on MY Saturday. Darling Husband didn’t ask ME if I could drive her back, either. However, Darling Husband can’t take his own car because it is very old. He also doesn’t have triple A. She also didn’t offer to pay for gas money, etc. It just cost me $600 just to fix my car recently, so it’s not like there’s no wear and tear on my newer car(it’s 6 yrs old). Darling Husband just assumed I would do this for his parent. But like I said, you should be asking me nicely if you want me to do such a task of playing taxi cab long distances with my car.
Why should I do something for her when they didn’t help pay for our recent wedding at all and it cost $15000 or more, not even the honeymoon? Darling Husband didn’t pay more than $800 and has no intentions of paying me back for the honeymoon or anything(although he had promised), and he still doesn’t pay for anything for us financially really. (He isn’t working right now due to a surgery recovery, but he still has some decent money.)
If she wants me to do this, she should be talking to me and asking me nicely to do this chore, which she didn’t. So should Darling Husband. She hasn’t talked to me at all since the wedding really and whenever she comes over here she touches/moves all my things in my apartment(which we still live in unfortunately since I basically paid for all the wedding stuff). She should work on building a relationship with me before she starts demanding tasks like these. She likes to talk to me only to like give advice/tell what to do, find out info. about her son, or talks to her son when she wants something from him(his words).
My stubborn DH didn’t even renew his AAA recently(I will look into a joint one when I have time), so if his car dies, it’s up a creek.(It wouldn’t start recently and its very very old. It overheats, etc. He mostly just drives it to the gym and that’s all.) I’m not going to come rescue him in the middle of nowhere for this journey. I guess she assumed his car would be good enough to drive it up there. (His dad really shouldn’t have talked son into getting such a bad/old car.) Or she thought I would do it and use my car. I really don’t know.
I’m usually really exhausted from the work week lately(I’m a teacher) and already have to do work on the weekend, My detailed Lesson Plans(literally takes 2 or more hours!). I feel like this would be a waste of my weekend. And she didn’t even ask me to do this. Like who knows if we would drive back or stay the night at their house if we did that. But I literally don’t want to drive up there on a Saturday afternoon or evening just to return the following day or that night. Um, no. Anyways, I am not a taxi cab.
My parents live about half that distance on the way(1 hr). If he’s going to leave me that weekend to do that then I’ll just go home for the weekend. Darling Husband doesn’t like that idea either. He wants me to *come with him* to do this stupid chore of driving his sister back and forth.
She’s a very manipulative controling woman. (My own family/parents can’t stand my Mother-In-Law and really wanted not much to do with her during our wedding and wedding planning. They purposefully stayed on separate floors from her in the hotel that weekend.) and as you can see, I am not in the best of moods right now(I have seasonal depression and haven’t been able to use my *lightbox* recently because it was giving me major headaches..which is also why I am super tired lately, plus I’ve been sick). It’s not like they do endless favors for us. Plus, most of our arguments(DH and I) are only in the car and have to do with driving.
Sorry this is some sort of vent.