Post # 1
Hey everyone….I am in a bit of a tough situation. My sister has a recessive gene for cystic fibrosis as does her husband. The likelihood of them having a child with the disease is 25%. My sister’s first pregnancy was normal and she gave birth to my nephew a few years ago. After her first pregnancy she was pregnant two more times (one baby due on halloween and the next one due on her birthday) BOTH pregnancies were terminated since they were found to have the disease. This has been VERY difficult for my sister because she has to carry the babies for 3 months before she is able to even test for the disease. After these pregnancies she tried invitro and that didn’t work either. She got pregnant again a few months ago (for a 4th time) and was due in April 2013 (due on the same date as her first sons birthday). Well, today she found out this baby also has the disease. The THIRD baby in a row. She said she can’t do it anymore and is going to get an egg donor.
When my mom told me the details of the egg donor I mentioned that I should donate my eggs to her. I am 27 and healthy. Assuming I don’t have the cystic fibrosis gene, I don’t see why I shouldn’t help her. I guess my mom mentioned it to her and she called me excited. BUT I am nervous. I have researched online the pro’s and con’s of being an egg donor but I’m still a little scared. Does anybody know or can anyone share first hand experiences that they know of regarding this procedure? Would *you* donate your eggs? Will it affect my likelihood of having children in the future? Will it change my body? Sorry for all the questions – but any advice would help!
Post # 3
I havent been through it, but I would do this for a sister. I’ve never heard of it having implications for your future fertility, and I think the only changes to your body will be due to the hormones used to stimulate ovulation, and those are short term. Bees who have experience here feel free to correct me if I’m wrong. What a wonderful gift:)
Post # 4
I have donated my eggs 3 times and plan on doing it a 4th time. My body has not changed and I feel just fine. Basically you go on an OCP for a month to get your cycle in sync with the recipient. Then you start on a medication to put you into menopause, temporarily. You then go off the OCP and wait until you get your period. After getting your period you start on medications (shots) that make you produce eggs. You continue to do this for about 2 weeks and get an ultrasound and lab done every other day. When you get to the point of the procedure to remove the eggs you then give yourself the HCG injection. Two days after you go in for the procedure. You then go under conscious sedation the procedure takes about 15 minutes. I felt perfectly fine after all 3 procedures. I hope this helps you on your decision! If you have any questions you canmessage me! 🙂
Post # 5
If it was to an annonymous couple, no I would not donate my eggs. But in the special case that you explained, I would do it. I think it is very noble to want to help your sister.
In order to do it, I believe you need to be on hormones for some time. It should not negatively effect your chance of having children in the future. Your body may or may not change, I have heard of people gaining or losing some weight during the process.
Two things I think you should be prepared for is one, that your sister may prefer to go with an annonymous donor and not with a family donor. You might also feel emotionally tied to the child because you will be his/her biological mother. You may feel totally okay with this or you made need to talk with a therapist about your feelings. Just try to be ready for those types of things.
Post # 6
Theoretically to my sister, yeah. But from knowing them it would never happen because if they have issues having their own bio kids, they wouldn’t do expensive fertility treatsment and would adopt. But I wouldn’t even consider it for a random stranger.
Post # 7
I couldn’t bring myself to do it. I would see it as someone else raising my child (right or wrong, just my POV), and I don’t want that to happen.
Post # 8
For a sibling I would consider it if my FI was ok with it.
Post # 9
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I thought, but I could be mistaken, that medicine long ago turned away from using sperm and egg donation from family members. I heard somehting about it recently on NPR in fact. Maybe this is a preference and not a rule?
Post # 10
Personally I would not do it for my sister.
Post # 11
I would for family, but not for a stranger. I’ve done some research in the past on it, (it was about 5 years ago so things may have changed since then) and found some concerns about it. Mainly you are put on a bunch of hormones, which some people do fine with and others experience a lot of issues. When they actually retrieve the eggs, some women experience a lot of pain, and the possibility of future fertility issues. Again others go through it with no problems at all. We are still wanting kids of our own (I’m 13 weeks pregnant with our first child right now) so it would have to be someone pretty special for me to take the risk of donation.
Post # 12
@banstett0414: Thank you so much for the very detailed outline of the procedure – This is really helpful. The “menopause” part sounds a little scary but I’m sure it’s moreso the word than anything else…I will definitely PM you once I get tested for the CF gene and if I am cleared to do this. Just out of curiosity – Did the egg donation work for the couple you donated too??
@MissNoodles: Thank you – she seems really excited about the prospect of it!
@Schatzie821: Thank you, it’s hard to say how I will feel. Easy to say how I think I will feel about it since I am NOWHERE near ready to have children nor do I have the patience for them (hopefully one day I will)…but I really am not thinking of it as my own at all…the thought of children terrifies me.
@mrsSonthebeach: Haven’t hears anything re: this but than again this all just happened tonight…I’ll see if I can find anything about it on google but I wouldn’t understand why it wouldn’t be acceptable
Post # 14
@serenitea: I was an anonymous donor so I never found out. I would imagine that they worked since I did it 3 times lol
Post # 15
One of my best friends did three cycles of egg donation, and I’m sure she’d be happy to give you some more information if you’d like.
From what I recall, the side effects she experienced as a result of the process were pretty minimal. Definitely some increased emotional volatility and I believe a little weight gain while she was on the hormones, but it was manageable; and the procedure itself I recall being very straightforward and no biggie for her. PM me if you’d like me to put you in touch with her.
Post # 16
Also, mentally–my friend was in a somewhat different position as you as re: possible future kids, because she knows for a fact that she never wants them. So she never had to consider the issue of feeling weird that her own children would have unknown biological siblings out there in the world… she actually joked, “I think my genes are pretty good, so it’s gotta be good to get them out there in the world!” Although obviously those biological kids of yours would not be unknown… but definitely a serious thing to consider.