Post # 1
Okay I’m getting married on August 23rd
‘A’ list goes out on the 16th of June
‘A’ list in by 14th of July
‘B’ list out on 21st of July (gap for calling to verify any A listers not responded by then)
‘B’ list in by 4th of August
Final numbers to venue by the 9th or so.
Here’s the thing: I only have 12 invites on my B list – I know…not a alot right….is those 12 people worth sending out my wedding invites almost 2 months before or is this pretty normal.
(PS – can’t ditch those 12 invties…this is what we are left with after serious list cutting and negotiation….)
Post # 3
I think sending the remaining 12 out 2 months prior is fine. Like you said, you should definately know by then who on the A list is not coming. At first I thought sending out your A set of invites was too early, but with having a B list, I think you’ve set it up nicely.
Post # 4
Well the B list is only getting mailed out 5 weeks before the wedding with only a 2 week period to respond…give or take. Luckily all the B listers are in town – so hopefully thats ok too…..I’m so worried they will know they are B listers….
Post # 5
i think you’re good. we’re sort of doing a "rolling b-list invite" (meaning as we get declines, we’ll start to invite b-listers). those on the end of the b-list will get about 3 weeks to respond, which is less than i would like, but oh well!
Post # 6
your timeline is totally fine! 🙂 as long as it’s not obvious that your B-list is your B-list, you’re fine. 🙂 i like rebecca’s rolling B list too.
Post # 7
Well I’m not marking them with a scarlet "B" or anything….;-)
I’m so gald that you all think it’s ok. I looked at it again today and wondered if sending the "a" out so soon would leave them "forgetting" about the wedding – in a sense….know what I mean?
Post # 8
Regarding people "knowing" they are on the B list – I’m assuming they didn’t get a STD… we’ve received an invite without an STD and we knew that meant we were B list. So despite your best efforts, there is a good chance they will know. That being said, 1 month is plenty of time for an invitation to go out for locals – and you may be able to send them earlier as people RSVP "no" from the A list. Are there people on the B list that know each other, if one were to receive an invite 2 weeks before the other… or A and B list people that know each other… I don’t know why I am rambling; there is nothing you can do about any of this. Your timeline looks good. I am clearly procrastinating getting work done by being on weddingbee and that is why this post is so long!