Would you drive 8 hours in one day for a birthday party with two toddlers?

posted 1 year ago in Family
Post # 2
564 posts
Busy bee

no way.  maybe if you could make it a weekend trip, but that’s way too much driving for a single day, especially with young kids and especially if you aren’t that close to the person.  

Post # 3
4058 posts
Honey bee

Nope. Our families are a 5-6 hour drive away, and we will do this only if we stay the weekend and it’s someone we are close to. 

Post # 4
3388 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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hawk22 :  nope. No one should drive 4 hours straight without a rest. The baby shouldn’t be in the car seat for longer than 2 hours without a good stretch, the 4 year old will need a pee at least once.

if you were going overnight and making a weekend of it sure- but not in one day. 

Post # 5
579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2021

I would do it but not for just the birthday. Like if it was my sister, I haven’t seen her in a while and would like to, and we would probably look into staying the night or weekend. It would also have to be planned out with notice as a trip. 

Post # 6
1752 posts
Buzzing bee

Sorry but I couldn’t do it, especially for someone I’m not close to. That’s a long day of driving with little ones.  Maybe if I was there for a weekend and could stop in for the party, then yes. But otherwise, no, I would just mail a birthday card with money or a gift card.

Post # 7
6943 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

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hawk22 :  In one day? Nope nope nope. Especially since you’re not even close to this person. 

Post # 9
6799 posts
Busy Beekeeper

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hawk22 :  I’ve done it so our baby could meet her grandma who is in poor health (but seems better!) and can’t travel at elevation especially. It was unpleasant. For us that’s two 7 hour drives to get there and with the littles we easily added a couple more per day. By the end the toddler was unhappy and bored, the baby was having blowouts in her car seat and crying whenever she got put back in. I wouldn’t do it for anyone else and especially someone I’m not even close to. 

Post # 10
7842 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

One day? No way. 

Post # 11
315 posts
Helper bee

Why does it have to be one day? Surely if you wanted to go you would make a plan to stay overnight. If you don’t really want to go you don’t need our permission to say no.


Regardless of how close you are to your sibling id more consider what kind of relationship you would like your children to have wit their cousins.

Post # 12
513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2020


Post # 14
9972 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

A 4 month old is not a toddler and I don’t think it’s even safe for a baby that young to drive for 4 hours straight through. They need to take breaks out of the car seat.

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