Post # 1
We got an invitation in the mail to attend a family member’s birthday party that is an 8 hour round trip drive without stopping. We have a 4 year old and a 4 month old baby. Is this even smart to even consider? It’s a sibling that we aren’t very close to.
Post # 2
no way. maybe if you could make it a weekend trip, but that’s way too much driving for a single day, especially with young kids and especially if you aren’t that close to the person.
Post # 3
Nope. Our families are a 5-6 hour drive away, and we will do this only if we stay the weekend and it’s someone we are close to.
Post # 4
nope. No one should drive 4 hours straight without a rest. The baby shouldn’t be in the car seat for longer than 2 hours without a good stretch, the 4 year old will need a pee at least once.
if you were going overnight and making a weekend of it sure- but not in one day.
Post # 5
I would do it but not for just the birthday. Like if it was my sister, I haven’t seen her in a while and would like to, and we would probably look into staying the night or weekend. It would also have to be planned out with notice as a trip.
Post # 6
Sorry but I couldn’t do it, especially for someone I’m not close to. That’s a long day of driving with little ones. Maybe if I was there for a weekend and could stop in for the party, then yes. But otherwise, no, I would just mail a birthday card with money or a gift card.
Post # 7
In one day? Nope nope nope. Especially since you’re not even close to this person.
Post # 9
I’ve done it so our baby could meet her grandma who is in poor health (but seems better!) and can’t travel at elevation especially. It was unpleasant. For us that’s two 7 hour drives to get there and with the littles we easily added a couple more per day. By the end the toddler was unhappy and bored, the baby was having blowouts in her car seat and crying whenever she got put back in. I wouldn’t do it for anyone else and especially someone I’m not even close to.
Post # 11
Why does it have to be one day? Surely if you wanted to go you would make a plan to stay overnight. If you don’t really want to go you don’t need our permission to say no.
Regardless of how close you are to your sibling id more consider what kind of relationship you would like your children to have wit their cousins.
Post # 13
They don’t have kids, but they never shown any interest in my kids (never been to any of the birthday parties, showers, etc.) which is totally fine because I don’t expect anyone to drive that far for one event.
I guess I should have asked is it rude to say it’s too far for our kids or should I just say we have a prior engagement and leave it at that?
Post # 14
A 4 month old is not a toddler and I don’t think it’s even safe for a baby that young to drive for 4 hours straight through. They need to take breaks out of the car seat.
Post # 15
For a sibling? Yes, I would.