Would you drive 8 hours in one day for a birthday party with two toddlers?

posted 1 year ago in Family
Post # 16
3083 posts
Sugar bee

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hawk22 :  

Noooooo lol

no thanks. If i really wanted to see the family and was staying down there a day or two, but thats way too much diriving for one day even without the kids. 

Post # 17
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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hawk22 :  I wouldn’t do it. I only take road trips with the kids that far for people I am DYING to see. Otherwise we’ll facetime you lol. Are you including stops in your calculation? When my daughter was 4 months old a 3 hour drive easily turned into 4 or even 5 with stops for nursing, diaper changes, etc. 

Post # 18
3394 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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hawk22 :  can you not stay overnight nearer to the party? 

if not then it’s fine to decline and say it’s too far to go with the children at the moment 

Post # 19
3012 posts
Sugar bee

I wouldn’t do a day trip involving 8 hrs of driving for a bday party even WITHOUT kids. But if it was close family I’d probably make an over night out of it if we were able to.

Post # 20
10312 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Absolutely not. I wouldn’t make that drive for a birthday party with or without kids. Traveling for a brirthday party is ridiculous, IMO.

Post # 21
1492 posts
Bumble bee

You’re not close so I’d just say “It sounds like it’ll be a great time but my husband and I can’t make that drive with our two young kids. I wish you a happy birthday!” You can even send a gift if you feel like it. 

There’s no way I’d do that drive in 1 day. Whenever we have family events (our drive is 4 hours one way too), we stay for at least a weekend. 

Post # 22
677 posts
Busy bee

I would not make that trip in one day even on my own.

however, since it’s a sibling, and they went through the trouble of mailing an actual invite, it sounds like a pretty important event to them. I also assume your children’s other family members, grandparents will be attending as well? I think if it’s possible to make it a weekend trip, you should try to go

Post # 23
717 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I don’t even have kids and I wouldn’t attend. 

Doubful I’d even attend if it were a c;pse family/member or friend too, they’d understand. 

Post # 24
14014 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Nope, not for a day trip

Post # 25
2235 posts
Buzzing bee

No.  But I might try to go and stay overnight if it was something I really wanted to do.  And I certainly wouldn’t be thinking I was going to drive for four hours straight.  We would probably be stopping every hour and it would be more like six hours each way.  

Post # 26
1374 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

You couldn’t pay me to do that.


8 hours is more like 10 or 11 with kids. 

Post # 27
9591 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

the question isn’t would i? the question is, would you?

do you want to go?  you say 8 hours round trip, so 4 hours a direction. is there likely to be traffic?

are you able to travel during nap times? are you able to stay overnight so you don’t have to do it all in one day.

i wouldn’t drive 8 hours in one day by myself unless there was a really good reason for it. or it was something i wanted.


Post # 28
8028 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t like anybody that much.

Post # 29
981 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

Is it a milestone birthday? A big party with rented space and all your relatives? Or just cake and ice cream kind of thing?

If I went, I would definitely make a weekend trip of it just because 4 hours is no joke travel time alone, let alone with 2 young children. I think anyone would understand!

Post # 30
841 posts
Busy bee

I wouldn’t drive 8 hours in one day for a birthday party with no kids

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